Welcome- Thank you for taking the time to stop and view my profile. If you are married or newly out of relationship plz keep going. I am not interested in married men or men who are still all caught up in a resent split. Nothing against you, I just do not want to walk that path again-ever!! If you don't know what you want...plz come back when you do, I am not interested in a "Yo-Yo" relationship. I can say with all honesty that I am not looking to go head first into a new relationship-but I am looking more for a friendship-something that can be taken slow and build over time (with bennys IF the time comes) that could eventually turn into something more long term. Right now I am looking for someone to spend some quality time with; chatting, going for walks, going to the movies, staying in and cooking dinner together, watching football or hockey, taking long drives to nowhere special or planned, picnic under the stars, talking and laughing together...you know, the things that friends do together. (And of course, if there is chemistry and connection; yummy-passionate-mind blowing sex!!) What I am looking for is someone I can trust!! Someone I can be me with...someone who isn't going to judge me or look down their nose at me. Someone who will understand me...all of me. I have been on AFF for a number of years now (off and on) and have met a handful of amazing people (and a few not so amazing people). I am looking now for what is missing in my life-someone I can talk to and be open and honest with, someone I can confide in and trust not to judge me...someone who wants me and loves me for me-all that I am, good and bad. (and believe me when I say I have both) I have started to believe there are no real and honest men out there. Perhaps men just don't have a clue what its like to be human with feelings or how to treat a lady. I am not looking for a "Bad-Boy" and I don’t want “Prince Charming”...I want someone real-an “Average Joe” for my “Plain Jane”. Are there any real men left...?? I dare you to prove there are..... I know that AdultFriendFinder can be A Meat Market!! I am not at all interested in that. If your little head controls your big head 24/7 don't bother responding to my profile-its doubtful I will respond back. If your response only contains cock pics and porn (I write adult literature-so I don't need yours-thanks) it is very likely that it will hit the trash. You only have one chance to make a first impression-don't waste your's. And plz don't send me your cell number thinking that I am going to call/text you...it ain't gonna happen 'til I know a bit about you....and it doesn't make me a bitch for saying that. I am a confident woman and I like who I am. There are a couple things I would like to change about myself-but for the most part I am comfortable in my own skin and like what I see in the mirror each day. I know what I want.... and don't want, in any kind of relationship-be it friendship or love. I am plus sized or a BBW-Big Beautiful Woman!! (If you don't know what that means ya better look it up) As I said already; I am comfortable and confident. If you don't like a bigger woman plz don't waste my time by writing-cuz I am a Big Girl (however, I am on a weigh loss journey). I have been told that I am demanding and expect a lot from the man I am involved with-I expect what I give. I expect honesty and respect. And I give it in return. I have been called "high maintenance" sexually-yeah, I like sex, a lot!! *With The Right Man* I know what I like behind closed doors and don't have a problem asking or telling you what I want. I have also been told that I have an addictive perality...I don't know if that is true or not-you be the judge. I have so much that I want to do....so much that I have to give-to the right man. I want a best friend-I want a passionate lover...yeah, I want it all. The kissing, the touching, the tasting...is that too much to ask for these days......I hope not!!

My Ideal Person My Ideal Person; How does one describe and define the Ideal Person??

I don't know that I have an Ideal Person. I like all kinds of different characteristics in people; a great sense of humor, a inviting smile, big warm hands, a quick wit, intelligence (without arrogance), understanding and compassion. I like a man who likes to be involved in life not just sit around and watch life go by. I prefer a Gentleman who is a little rough around the edges but cleans up nicely. My ideal man would know when to give me some space or take me into his arms and just hold me.

I do tend to be more attracted to older men-always have. I truly believe that older men are better friends and superior lovers. There is a gentleness and maturity in an older man that I just find amazingly sexy. Now that isn't to say that I wouldn't be attracted to a younger man...its possible, if the chemistry were there. 

I love facial hair on men-nicely groomed gotees always get my attention. I love a bald head too. But you can have long hair or be clean shaven too. As I said, I don't have an "Ideal" man.

Body type isn't as big a deal to me as some-I have learned over the years that the exterior beauty is just packaging-its the gift on the inside that really matters. Although I do prefer a taller man as I am fairly tall myself. What tends to shine out to me in your confidence in yourself-without arrogance. Someone who can laugh at themselves and have a good time.

There is one thing that is a MUST-communication and honesty. I am one who likes to talk and when there is a riff I like to get it out in the open right away and work it out. I prefer to talk rather than yell and scream-but I have been known to lose my temper a time or two. 

I hope this has given you some insight into who I am and what I am seeking. If you want to know more, just ask. I an open and honest to a fault. Lets talk and see if we are a match.

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
To be in a snowed in cabin in the hills/mountains with my
lover, no phones, TVs, PCs, beeper/pager...just the two
of us and a roaring fire for several days. It would be pure
heaven.

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
A bed, The beach, The middle of a park, A movie theatre, A remote wilderness spot, Under a waterfall, A swimming pool or hot tub, A store dressing room, A hotel room

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Light Bondage, Spanking, Mutual Masturbation, Food Play, Blindfolds, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Same/similar fetishes, Sexual appetite, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Agreeable to a commitment free sexual relationship, Creativity/Kinkiness level

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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