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TabithaBeau 48 F
1  Article
being Gentle   3/23/2016

my own policy when it comes to turning someone down on an adult site is simply to say, no thank you, thank you for understanding. There is no advantage at a point of rejection to be offering specific excuses, as it only creates a defensive situation.

5 Comments, 37 Views, 14 Votes ,5.06 Score
Lizzy6969 54 F
2  Articles
Doesn't matter how you say it..........   2/26/2016

It doesn't matter how you say it, the person on the other end 95% of the time gets offended. Its a lose lose situation. I have said it so many different ways, changed my profile so hopefully they wouldn't even email me (that does't work, men look at pictures), I have even just deleted the emails being rude and not saying a word but that don't help either cause they continue to email ...

9 Comments, 79 Views, 14 Votes ,4.58 Score
charlesmorgan101 53 M
2  Articles
You have to say what you mean....   2/1/2016

There are some people who think that "no" is the hardest word to say in the world. I am not one of them. Some people believe if you say "no" you will lose friends, or be unpopular. Better to be friendless and unpopular, than to say yes to something that will put you in a poor position.

So, "no thanks" is often necessary. And it's actually better than radio silence. There are many who ...

3 Comments, 27 Views, 10 Votes ,5.38 Score
charlesmorgan101 53 M
2  Articles
You have to say what you mean....   2/1/2016

There are some people who think that "no" is the hardest word to say in the world. I am not one of them. Some people believe if you say "no" you will lose friends, or be unpopular. Better to be friendless and unpopular, than to say yes to something that will put you in a poor position.

So, "no thanks" is often necessary. And it's actually better than radio silence. There are many who ...

0 Comments, 3 Views, 2 Votes ,1.73 Score
jacobmille565565 34 M
3  Articles
They get there and they aren't what you expected   1/21/2016

Has anyone ran into the situation where you invited someone from HornyWife over with adult fun in mind only to find they are not as advertised? How did you handle this situation. I'm sure it is really awkward for everyone involved. Or maybe there was something that just turned you off when they finally got there. How did you handle saying "no thanks"?

6 Comments, 157 Views, 14 Votes ,4.74 Score
TheOnlyHotspot 42 C
5  Articles
I might be too blunt   1/13/2016

If I'm not interested it's going to be a straight up answer. I am nice but blunt is anyone else like that or am I the only bitch. If you n I have nothing in common I'm sorry but it's not happening


2 Comments, 33 Views, 5 Votes ,3.80 Score
11  Articles
Temptation NOT   1/5/2016

Remembering my fun days i just sit back and smile. Always been great at showing my passion when i have sex. Saying this to say i have had a lot of unforgettable times. But time stops for no one if you don't take care of your self it shows. So when a old sex partner hits me up on social media I look sometimes and be like damn what happened. No thanks even if i remember how delightful your pussy ...

0 Comments, 13 Views, 0 Votes
"No Gracias"   1/4/2016

There was one time where the person said please do me so hard and I said no.

2 Comments, 26 Views, 4 Votes ,1.69 Score
1  Article
YES or NO   12/13/2015

we do say YES when its come about sex life and normally word NO in sex life was just a word thats mean nothing. As long we live and ability to want means YES to our sex life

2 Comments, 20 Views, 4 Votes ,1.30 Score
sumith00007 33 M
1  Article
Ass lick   11/22/2015

Why girl ass makes man horny..

3 Comments, 29 Views, 6 Votes ,4.22 Score
KIngofAces5 21 M
1  Article
Sent mixed signal and chasing a lost of interest   11/11/2015

This is usually the reason why people pursue after someone. Because they thought they may be interested in them or may possibly give them a chance however when the individual decides to say no then the aggressor typically a man ( Man dominated cultures and in this chase America) thinks the chase (woman/man) is just playing hard to get. It is the flirts, misinterpreted body language that has ...

0 Comments, 30 Views, 10 Votes ,4.38 Score
rejection on reason basis and strength of rejection   10/30/2015

some people just do not like to accept "i don't like you" as an answer. what could be done in this case? one of the good choices could be reasoning and explaining the reason unless he/she is some kind of psycho, in which case rejection should be strong and exempt from reasoning

2 Comments, 22 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
rm_NOPoet30 67 M
47  Articles
NO!   10/29/2015

Hey Look Ppl - No is NO and they usually [90%] mean just that = NO. Once should be enough! To keep going is not only pointless, but it is also very annoying and can lead only to trouble. Listen and comply.

2 Comments, 19 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
clubg24 82 C
1  Article
JUST SAY "NO".   10/8/2015

Some people are just so sweet hearted that even on a sex site they have difficulty saying NO to someone who is trying to get them into bed. No one enjoys being rejected but...for something as serious as giving my body to someone for their pleasure and me indulging in theirs I feel a need to be extremely picky. Maybe if you don't get many invites and you are desperate to get laid your expectations ...

16 Comments, 155 Views, 31 Votes ,6.50 Score
Traveled the Road Less Traveled   10/4/2015

Well Ladies and Gentlemen, I tried to travel down the road less traveled and let me tell you... I learned some major lessons.

As Oprah would say, what I know for sure is... what I like and do not like and what I will and will not tolerate.

Let me explain I traveled down the road of younger guys and what my experience was... the sex was great, but... and we all know that the but ...

3 Comments, 74 Views, 11 Votes ,4.48 Score
How many times to say no?   9/25/2015

We have several members who continuously message their interest in us. We do try to answer when someone takes the time of message us but just how many times must one do that? Is there a way to block a member when they become a nuisance?

4 Comments, 32 Views, 7 Votes ,5.59 Score
Hotplombier34 42 M
1  Article
FILLES open sur la rivesud de montreal ??   9/19/2015

Yas tu du mondes sul party a soir

0 Comments, 2 Views, 2 Votes ,5.20 Score
SoCarolinaMan 62 M
2  Articles
How do you feel when you make a "date" for swinging and the other party does not show up?   9/12/2015

Whenever a party says they will meet for a sexual encounter and they do not show up, what do you do?

6 Comments, 39 Views, 9 Votes ,4.07 Score
TwoPlusOne4Funnn 35 C
1  Article
whoa can we meet you before your genitals   9/6/2015

Why ...just why lol do people think it is attractive to send genital pics in their 1st ever message to you like hi this is my stuff do you I don't even know anything about you yet...immediate turn off

5 Comments, 45 Views, 11 Votes ,6.35 Score
jacqndenita 42 C
1  Article
How to say "no"   9/3/2015

My wife and I have been in this situation a few times and it is always difficult. We were in a group situation, invited to a party where there were several couples we knew and there was one guy out of the bunch that my wife found very unattractive. Later on in the evening there was group play going on and we didn't end up playing at all because she was uncomfortable with having to say no to ...

2 Comments, 60 Views, 4 Votes ,5.19 Score
Male Head vs. Female Head   8/28/2015

This is a repost of an blog I did in 2012

I am just flabbergasted about a NSA that I had with a dude here on HornyWife. 1st of all he did not read my post. 2nd he was selfish and lazy. 3rd he wanted me to give him head but not return the favor. 4th he had the ordasity to get upset about it. 5th he still wanted to have sex after I left.

This is a 38 year old man (now he's ...

4 Comments, 82 Views, 17 Votes ,6.24 Score
rm_DeAnnaGray22 37 T
1  Article
Harsh Articulation   8/15/2015

In response to the email I received asking if I am interested in you I will begin by stating that I read your profile thoroughly in an effort to offer a no ‘bs’ and sincere answer. Typically I would simply not take the time to read through a profile without a profile picture attached. It shows a lack of confidence and conviction. That, in and of itself, is less attractive than the homeliest ...

5 Comments, 48 Views, 8 Votes ,4.87 Score
Lunallia 28 F
1  Article
Taking "no" for an answer: A How-To Guide   7/15/2015

There are many, many people who breach our inboxes everyday, sending all sorts of stuff.

First of all, I'll respond to a message with just "hi", before responding to someone saying what they want to do to me. It's called respect. If I turn you down-take it the first time. Don't try to keep getting me to say yes. I've made my mind up. It's not going to get changed. So please, when I deny ...

1 Comments, 54 Views, 16 Votes ,5.48 Score
Say No Gracefully   6/21/2015

If something is not working out, just let the other person know as soon as possible. When you tell them, be as gracious as possible. Thank then for what they have done for you in the past and/or pay them a compliment. Then, gently let them know that things are not working out, why they are not working out, and then tell them that things must end. When you tell them the reasons, try not to blame ...

5 Comments, 41 Views, 12 Votes ,5.98 Score
BlackBull089 34 M
1  Article
Hard sometimes   6/3/2015

Now, there have been sometimes where Ive been straight just given ass and had to turn it down. I consider myself a bit of a sex addict if you will, but even still its good to sometimes say no. Even with a condom, they're some pieces you gotta avoid like the plague's coming back lol. AT least in el paso there was, I'm in SA that'll be a slightly different story but we'll see.

0 Comments, 20 Views, 5 Votes ,3.14 Score
Women don't have a patent on preference   6/1/2015

There's no doubt that the man to woman ratio on this site is 500/20. That means a man has a 4% chance of actually getting as much attention as a woman on here. This doesn't include couple status. The women seem to be the smart ones on here. The ones worth talking to are selective, as a man should be. Some people just don't get it though. All I can do is shake my head when I hear a woman talk ...

7 Comments, 70 Views, 9 Votes ,5.14 Score
rm_fun2play6709 46 F
1  Article
But they won't go away!   5/16/2015

I have met a few guys on this site. I usually message back and forth, then either make a decision whether I want to continue on or cut the ties. Behavior that is persistent, constantly messaging me on my phone while I'm asleep or at work...ugh! This is why when I get messages from guys I know there is not a chance in hell we will have any chemistry, I don't respond. I also have a message that ...

4 Comments, 71 Views, 17 Votes ,4.12 Score
no thanks   5/15/2015

no thanks

0 Comments, 9 Views, 2 Votes
girly4girlyfun 48 F
1  Article
I agree with something SensuousShades said.....   5/1/2015

If I am approached in a polite respectful manner....I will likely respond in the same way. You get what you give.

If you repeatedly email me "hey lets fuck", "me in ur pussy" Or "come suck my cock"... You will get nothing from me. Honestly, I don't "owe" anyone anything if I don't even know them. That's part of the territory in this community. If you don't get a response......don't be ...

6 Comments, 62 Views, 19 Votes ,7.21 Score
TylerDurden5052 30 M
1  Article
30 pts post(ignore)   4/5/2015

How can mirrors be real if our eyes aren't real?

2 Comments, 11 Views, 3 Votes ,3.92 Score
SensuousShades 39 C
3  Articles
I suppose   3/18/2015

The way respond to unwanted emails or IMs is based on the request we've received. If the person messaging us is polite we'll respond with "thank you for your interested, but you aren't what we're looking for."

Sometimes people say things that we can't actually respond to so we leave those messages unanswered. Messages like "Hi, I want to cum on your face" don't get responses.

4 Comments, 68 Views, 17 Votes ,6.24 Score
lookin4funinBC9 58 M
2  Articles
At least say No!   3/13/2015

Just wish if you contact someone they would say No! Saying nothing is worse.

9 Comments, 105 Views, 15 Votes ,4.36 Score
3  Articles
How to let down some unwanted suitor.   3/4/2015

Ever have this happen to you.. You check out your e-mail and find someone from the same sex hitting on you, or a sexually unattractive member wanting you to have an encounter with them. Face it the world is a crap-shoot. That's the adventure called: romance. How to not to seem rude and decline the offer. Just say in a polite manner, " I'm flattered that you have found me attractive, but I'm not ...

10 Comments, 86 Views, 11 Votes ,3.17 Score
It's funny.   3/2/2015

I always appreciate it when someone says no thank you politely. I don't mind if they say "no interest". At least you know, there is nothing there. I do find it interesting that some people, just stop talking with you. You never know if they got cut off, or are not interested. So please, be blunt and say one thing or another, don't just go silent.

5 Comments, 30 Views, 8 Votes ,4.41 Score
Mean People Suck   3/1/2015

I've been here for while. I've been successful. I had a lot of fun, and I've met some very special ladies. I think about each one as a bottle of wine, the bottle that I shared with them: Chardonnay, Riesling, a particularly good vintage of South African Wine, and yes even a Merlot. I've also met some real jerks, at least on line.

I have sent at least 200 emails to which I received no ...

2 Comments, 59 Views, 5 Votes ,5.10 Score
Harder for men or women?   1/29/2015

Who has the harder time saying no, men or women?

5 Comments, 46 Views, 9 Votes ,3.43 Score
IM   1/28/2015

i am a charming guy trying to make conversation and too many times i get someone just suddenly end an IM conversation. isn't there a more polite way to say we should end this?

1 Comments, 18 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
DaDevilsDelight 52 M
10  Articles
I remeber   12/17/2014

I remember once I was seeing this young lady and she was really hott and I couldn't wait to be intimate her, after about a month of seeing each other the time had come, she took off her pants and before she could even get her panties off the smell almost gagged, it smelled like she needed an autopsy I told her I felt like we were rushing the situation and I was outta there lol

0 Comments, 50 Views, 1 Votes ,1.10 Score
fredericton_4fun 34 M
10  Articles
This has probably has been discussed alot but.   12/17/2014

How do you best say your not interested in another couple in a face to face meet n greet? I have always respected being honest with people but sometimes a white lie in these cases are too bad. Tell me your thoughts ....

1 Comments, 47 Views, 5 Votes ,3.14 Score
Bbcnmad 40 M
2  Articles
I think this might mess our friendship up   11/18/2014

Tell them that there a really great person but our friendship means more to me then just a hook up

1 Comments, 61 Views, 6 Votes ,2.51 Score
rm_robpsf415 27 M
12  Articles
Saying No   11/13/2014

How would you go about saying no thanks to someone who is incredibly persistent yet sweet at the same time?

10 Comments, 105 Views, 12 Votes ,3.86 Score
rm_goodsxwithu 53 C
10  Articles
Too much   11/12/2014

Saying no just got to be too much now we just ignore profiles that we're not interested in.

4 Comments, 71 Views, 13 Votes ,4.15 Score
buckfuddy39 48 M
3  Articles
why bother   11/11/2014

I read a few comments about women politely declining men's advances here on HornyWife. After seeing some responses posted on Facebook and other sites, I'm not surprised women say nothing when approached - I've seen a LOT of nasty responses guys have made to a simple, "no".

Things like, "fuck you, you fat cunt"; "you're ugly anyway"; "I'm too good for you anyway"; "why the fuck are you on here ...

12 Comments, 126 Views, 14 Votes ,5.38 Score
superhead1973 51 C
10  Articles
No way   11/9/2014

We love the feature that lets us add a message on the IM before we block them.

5 Comments, 58 Views, 11 Votes ,5.22 Score
Using IM   11/8/2014

I find that many simply never respond to an IM request for chat. Is there any etiquette on this matter?

5 Comments, 108 Views, 9 Votes ,4.49 Score
kimdan4fun 40 C
10  Articles
Testimonials   11/7/2014

Do you sometimes say no thanks to someone that has given you a testimonial?

6 Comments, 49 Views, 7 Votes ,5.08 Score
To thank or not to thank   11/6/2014

I use to love going on the IM but I rarely do now because all it turns into is a steady stream of vulgar come ons from every jerk ever put on this site. I not only don't say no thanks I ignore them altogether and let them wonder if their IM is working.

6 Comments, 63 Views, 18 Votes ,5.85 Score
prettyinpink838 40 C
6  Articles
No   10/31/2014

Saying no has become very easy to say on this site especially with single guys.

3 Comments, 41 Views, 5 Votes ,4.12 Score
rm_3xthefun99 53 C
4  Articles
Blocked!!!   10/21/2014

There's no need to feel like you have to answer all these guys, just block them period.

3 Comments, 44 Views, 11 Votes ,4.29 Score
funcouplerus2 40 C
5  Articles
No thanks.   10/15/2014

Do single guys realize that most women and couples get hit repeatedly every day with stupid emails from single guys? We have jobs we don't need another one answering all the stupid stuff that comes our way. Oh and here's an idea try writing things that make sense and that don't reek of coming from an 11 year old.

12 Comments, 77 Views, 19 Votes ,4.84 Score
MovingOn001 64 M
7  Articles
The Best Way to Respond to "No Thanks" Replies   10/14/2014

Like anyone who has been on HornyWife for any length of time and has tried to make contact with someone, I have received my share of "Thanks, but No Thanks" replies. I have been told however, that my response to those "No Thanks" replies is quite different than what most women receive from those kinds of replies.

I am not rude or abusive to the woman who told me "No Thanks". I do not whine or ...

0 Comments, 68 Views, 12 Votes ,4.92 Score
thorped11 41 M
1  Article
Ignoring people if not interested or politely declining   10/11/2014

What is the outlook on this? Do people prefer to hear back even if it is not the response they would like to hear or will being ignored also do the job. Also if you have to deal with unwanted attention do you prefer to let them know or simply ignore it and the potential backlash of a "sore loser" along with it?

5 Comments, 43 Views, 7 Votes ,2.53 Score
MorganJ 53 F
1  Article
Since you asked...   9/30/2014

As I glanced at the articles on the Saying "No Thanks" page, I noticed that 5/12 of the articles on the first page were all regarding the fact that women here often don't give a polite 'no thank you" when emailed or IMed. I certainly don't expect that posting my reason for not responding to those who contact me will make a dent in the future "why are women so rude" questions, but here goes ...

8 Comments, 113 Views, 18 Votes ,3.81 Score
Why does this seem to be so difficult....   9/21/2014

I can understand that a huge amount of requests are posted on this site especially in the chat rooms & IM, but so many people just don't have the time to reply with a polite "No Thanks", it's almost like everybody is in such a rush or seem to hold themselves in such a high esteem that it's below them to do so (you know who you are people, admit it). I was always brought up to be polite and it's ...

7 Comments, 84 Views, 12 Votes ,1.39 Score
hotasiantaiwan 30 F
11  Articles

A couple of years ago I was really into nipples. Human nipples in particular (you wanted to take it there). I loved the way my partner’s nips felt up against my skin, and the way mine felt against their man-chest and lips. I loved the sensation and the eroticism of the little weird evolutionary phenomenon. I think my curiosity turned into a playful exploration of all the cool things you could ...

7 Comments, 119 Views, 22 Votes ,4.93 Score
sweetboi1234 28 M
10  Articles
avoid shit   9/4/2014

Sometimes u just have to say no wat is for u is for u don't rush life avoid unexpected stuff in like avoid say no

1 Comments, 28 Views, 9 Votes ,2.14 Score
It has to work for both or not at all   9/4/2014

Whenever I talk or chat with someone about meeting, I try to make it very clear that even though it may sound like a match and a hot time ahead, you don't know if it works for you until you meet. Everyone has their own preferences and attractions, I always meet with the agreement that if it won't work for either one, it is a thanks, but no thanks, a handshake, and good luck to you. I am not ...

4 Comments, 84 Views, 3 Votes ,5.39 Score
Ebonyforwhite 43 F
1  Article
Do men read profiles at all   9/2/2014

Yes i like both men and women but at this time I'm looking for only women to play with but these men seem to think they can change you mine by saying I need dick if i want dick i will get dick but i want and need pussy no thank you another black men s

8 Comments, 81 Views, 13 Votes ,4.82 Score
rm_KidP09 27 M
2  Articles
Saying No   8/29/2014

When someone isn't attractive to you but keeps coming at you how do you let them down easy?

3 Comments, 45 Views, 5 Votes ,3.80 Score
rm_tnhotcock469 36 M
1  Article
Being Polite   8/25/2014

I wish that people on this site would try a little to be polite. If somebody sends you a message and you are not interested in them; just respond back and say that you appreciate their interest in you, but you are not interested.

I do not think it is very nice to just ignore their message. Think of it like this: they found you attractive enough to take the time to send a message, you ...

13 Comments, 108 Views, 25 Votes ,2.69 Score
9  Articles
not interested   8/18/2014

Why do ppl constantly message you especially on I.m when you say your not interested and they just keep at it. I blocked this guy and he changed his screen name 3 times just to keep bugging me. Why is im not interested so hard to comprehend? It bugs me with the persistance of some people. I hate to be rude but sometimes thats all that will work.

6 Comments, 44 Views, 16 Votes ,2.25 Score
kittykitty05 48 F
3  Articles
The best way   8/15/2014

What's the best way for a girl to tell you that they aren't interested? Do you want a response? Is an explanation needed or is "no thanks" enough? Do guys realize that many will send back a response that mimics the attitude that the interest is given?

7 Comments, 55 Views, 9 Votes ,5.56 Score
BLOG   8/6/2014

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3 Comments, 13 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
rm_testprem425 43 M
5  Articles
NO THANKS   8/1/2014

Strictly speaking "No thanks" would mean the person is not giving you any thanks. With a comma, "No, thanks", means "No, but thank you anyway" or similar

1 Comments, 21 Views, 2 Votes ,3.81 Score
Ways to not say "no"   7/23/2014

If you send someone a friend request and your YIM and then suddenly start ignoring all messages, even those that say "Hey, it's ok if you are not interested, JUST LET ME KNOW, " that is rude. Please just say "Sorry, I am really not interested in pursuing anything further with you." Believe me, most people on here are mature enough to say in response, "OK, good luck, " and move on to the next ...

12 Comments, 70 Views, 10 Votes ,2.39 Score
Wittyneel 52 C
3  Articles
Hypocrisy?   7/12/2014

HornyWife has been a good platform for like minded people to get to know each themselves. But i guess the reality is very different. Many a times the profiles are misleading. The response one gets is so different that what's in profile. Knowing well that with distance, different priorities and in general the circumstances it would not be possible to always meet in person. The big ...

4 Comments, 85 Views, 7 Votes ,4.06 Score
NuBoyToy4u 37 M
10  Articles
just say . . .   7/8/2014


i've already had enough to eat.

thanks though.



2 Comments, 13 Views, 3 Votes
kcutemilf 38 C
1  Article
The Polite No Thank you   7/5/2014

So, here you are on the instant messenger. You log on to see who's chatting, someone flashes across your screen with a hello, you quickly view their profile, you're not interested! What do you do?

Well, from experience that my significant other has had on this site, most people just ignore the other person if they're not interested.

I am one of the types that believe that's not ...

9 Comments, 121 Views, 28 Votes ,6.73 Score
DGator69 57 M
3  Articles
Proper etiquette on saying NO   7/3/2014

There are alot of members who get tons of e-mails, flirts and friend requests (especially women) on HornyWife, so much that many of them just delete/ignore the sender. The proper way to respond would be to just say "No thanks I am not interested" copy this response to the cursor and paste it when appropriate. If the sender keeps on sending either block or report that person. When you do not respond to ...

6 Comments, 67 Views, 6 Votes ,3.65 Score
No Reply Is a Message Also!   6/27/2014

That's what the blogger wrote on my blog awhile back: "No reply is also a reply." I wonder about that really? I mean, I know it could be, but I also have found that days later after I have made an inquiry with someone by sending them an introductory email, they respond and not always in a negative fashion.

"I've just been so inundated by emails." one sweet lady wrote. Another said she ...

5 Comments, 40 Views, 4 Votes ,4.80 Score
bryan01962 54 M
3  Articles
Why is it so hard to reply   6/15/2014

Why do people, women, never reply to messages even if just to say "sorry no thanks". Surely it cannot that hard to do.

10 Comments, 123 Views, 18 Votes ,3.40 Score
vonoberfen 53 M
3  Articles
I listen to NO   6/14/2014

I listen when someone tells me no. I respect their choice, and will ask, if it is appropriate, what led to their decision. I prefer conversation to conflict, and think that feedback allows me to make changes if needed. However, that doesn't mean I won't ever ask again! There is a place for persistence, and I have even been called stubborn (really). I had a work place encounter that ...

0 Comments, 31 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
How to walk away gracefully?   5/14/2014

So, Im just wondering what you all thought the best way to bow out of a set up 'meeting' with another member is. For instance, I sent a lady a message, things went well, decided to meet, and I had second thoughts so I sent a respectful reply saying id changed my mind. Then i got BLOWN up. Didnt think that'd happen but hey, maybe its just a one in a hundred kinda thing...

4 Comments, 105 Views, 5 Votes ,4.77 Score
thislustfulmind 42 M
28  Articles
The power of saying NO / YES / MAYBE - and the courage it takes...   4/26/2014

Ok, so you are not interested. How about just say: "Thanks - but no thanks". Believe me, it is more elegant to say No Thanks, than to disappear after countless exchanges, or a lame excuse, like "the ate my _ _ _ _ _". We are all adults here (ok, that's a long shot). The fact is that there's power in saying no. Where negativity is an ongoing attitude, No is a moment of clear choice. It announces, ...

5 Comments, 78 Views, 12 Votes ,1.92 Score
blkmagic725 54 M
7  Articles
When you say no to a couple   4/15/2014

Why is it that when you tell a couple that is trying to get you to come in and have sex with the female in the duo "no", they just can't accept that and feel the need to offer you reasons why it would be a good thing?

I personally feel that when you marry someone, its not to share them, at least not sexually and if I express that to you, that should be your signal to back off... Respect ...

3 Comments, 59 Views, 10 Votes ,4.18 Score
rm_maiaralynn 31 T
1  Article
Consent is Sexy!   4/8/2014

Consent is sexy! People should feel free to do or not do anything in bed/the shower/while tied up/in public/etc. Besides, how awesome is it when you get to hear them tell you "Yeah, I want it!"

2 Comments, 22 Views, 5 Votes ,5.10 Score
rm_Fort4084 32 M
24  Articles
women   4/2/2014

Women on this site are such ass wipes if u dou wanna take to a guy wen he sends a message tel them that don't not send a message and then I keep replieyin thinkin u didn't get my massage and then al of a sudden am a freak yr such ass hole

18 Comments, 167 Views, 18 Votes ,0.53 Score
sckrump1234 48 M
1  Article
be nice   2/16/2014

give some kind of response, let them know u got message, or they might keep mailing

10 Comments, 62 Views, 5 Votes ,2.49 Score
23  Articles
Everyone On HornyWife has been really, really polite to me   2/3/2014

People have either said no thanks and said why, or they've said, later and then contacted me later to get together.

I love this site, it's a great place to meet people.

I've tried some other sites and didn't have any luck whatsoever.

6 Comments, 58 Views, 9 Votes ,4.28 Score
annie444u 52 C
135  Articles
It's rare when we say no thanks, but when we do we're honest with them   1/23/2014

Be nice, be up front and be truthful to everyone.

We've had a hard time with three or four single guys - our add clearly states no single men but they continue to message us and one, after being told no for the fourth time went off on a rage on annie accusing her of being a slut, a and a cheating wife....we reported him and his profile soon disappeared from HornyWife.

Since then I ...

4 Comments, 66 Views, 11 Votes ,4.10 Score
annie444u 52 C
135  Articles
It's rare when we say no thanks, but when we do we're honest with them   1/23/2014

Be nice, be up front and be truthful to everyone.

We've had a hard time with three or four single guys - our add clearly states no single men but they continue to message us and one, after being told no for the fourth time went off on a rage on annie accusing her of being a slut, a and a cheating wife....we reported him and his profile soon disappeared from HornyWife.

Since then I ...

3 Comments, 41 Views, 9 Votes ,4.92 Score
How many 'No Thanks' can you take?   1/20/2014

Browsing down the categories to see where I should post this and the SAYING 'NO THANKS' heading waved and whistled at me..... Been married 35 years and it is a very strong marriage with some severe tests along the way; great highs, painful lows and buckets of tears and laughter along the way. We are very close and are best friends and the only secret I have from my wife is my registration on ...

4 Comments, 101 Views, 4 Votes ,2.47 Score
nr36532 30 M
2  Articles
Saying no thanks   11/16/2013

How do i say no thanks without gurting someones feelings?

0 Comments, 1 Views, 1 Votes ,5.00 Score
rm_gay4girl27 34 M
3  Articles
Why don't people do this?   10/18/2013

When you try to im someone and they just ignore you it is really frustrating. Could they just say, "thanks, I'm not interested."? I guess the problem is if they accept the im at all then if they try to say no the other person will keep bothering them. What do you think? Is ignoring the right thing to do, or should you at least respond with a "no thank you"?

8 Comments, 79 Views, 10 Votes ,5.38 Score
too much   10/16/2013

Its healthy to have breaks now and then too much sex can damage your health greatly, and a break can sumtimes increase the pleasure

0 Comments, 7 Views, 1 Votes ,1.10 Score
wildcatr27 52 F
11  Articles
confused i am   9/23/2013

so many times men complain they do not get a reply from women either by email or on the IM chat.

well explain this.... as i have just been lectured by an 18yr old boy that i was rude for accepting his chat request and explaining my preferences to him, several times

he was then abusive and told me i was wasting his time by accepting the chat

so we get criticized when we ...

11 Comments, 141 Views, 22 Votes ,5.41 Score
TomRakewell 31 M
10  Articles
Constructive   9/18/2013

Do you give constructive criticism when saying no?

1 Comments, 51 Views, 8 Votes ,2.55 Score
how to say it and not be rude   8/6/2013

there seems to be a culture that says saying no is insulting, i have to disagree, asserting your right to make the choice you want without fear of peer pressure is fundamental part of life. admittedly i dont get to say no much on here!

0 Comments, 29 Views, 6 Votes ,3.93 Score
CO_adventures 37 M
6  Articles
If there is just no attraction...   7/21/2013

One of the tougher reasons to just say, especially if a woman on this site is showing interest and there is just no attraction towards her, but in the few cases, I have tried to be honest instead of just leaving it go. Thoughts?

4 Comments, 83 Views, 7 Votes ,2.79 Score
hawg4fun13 43 M
15  Articles
Safe Sex   7/9/2013

Play Safe!!!!

2 Comments, 27 Views, 5 Votes ,3.80 Score
promexa01 28 M
10  Articles
¿Qué no harías?   7/7/2013

¿Qué no te gustaría hacer?

0 Comments, 7 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
ATLbicuriousChic 32 F
0  Articles
Why are We Women so Dificult?   4/29/2013

We girls don't know how good we have it. We certainly don't appreciate all the men making an effort to try to talk to us. Even when the men are nice to us we still treat them like shit, that's not fair at all, its completely wrong, and I agree with the men that we don't deserve to be praised like we are on this site. Most of the guys on here aren't half bad, Take it Coming from a Female. SO THIS ...

8 Comments, 121 Views, 17 Votes ,5.67 Score
rm_xxx736581520 37 M
4  Articles
ok   3/27/2013

It hurts a little but its polite and averyone should have their say

0 Comments, 42 Views, 8 Votes ,2.55 Score
rm_xxx736581520 37 M
4  Articles
fitness   3/27/2013

lets try and look after our bodies. at least lets try. its always sexy to our partners

2 Comments, 25 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
jpj789 49 M
1  Article
I have a difficult time saying "no thanks"   3/14/2013

In general, women that I meet via HornyWife fall into three main categories: "Yes!", "Not great, but she'll do" and "No $%#@ way!!".

You can call me shallow. You can call me a sex fiend or a predator. I don't think so - just an ordinary guy looking for some fun.

The twist is that I'm a gentleman. I don't abuse the women that I meet. I treat them well - with respect and try to keep ...

3 Comments, 93 Views, 10 Votes ,2.79 Score
Linc1912 47 M
11  Articles
Implied "No Thanks"   2/16/2013

I can accept a "no thank you". Its clear, and easily understood.

What ALOT of us men get unfortunately, are NO responses.

If the man actually took time to write a paragraph that didnt include WANNA FUCK, or COME FUCK NOW, then shouldnt you return the common courtesy of a response?

NO response is just rude. If you had time to read it, you have time to type a response.

4 Comments, 95 Views, 11 Votes ,5.04 Score
confused   2/14/2013

i am not into sex chat and stuff at all, but i did chat a lot with a girl from this site...for about a couple of months...she kept postponing to meet me due to some family emergencies..but loved talking to she has taken some time out due to some family crisis and asked me to wait. is it working for me or not?

2 Comments, 79 Views, 5 Votes ,2.82 Score
Music_Lover69 26 M
10  Articles
rejection   2/12/2013

girsl probably reject a lot here.. i mena seriously they must get like 100 messages a day and they get to pick who they wanna fuckk.... isnt it tru ladies....

2 Comments, 45 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
annie444u 52 C
135  Articles
Question, Would You Rather Be Told No Up Front   2/5/2013

We have a couple we like and have been talking to on a regular basis for nearly two years. Both are extremely hot and both tell us that they want to take their first plunge with us, which I believe, but Danny is skeptical.

I say they're afraid to take the plunge, that it is erotica for them to talk to us, share pictures with us, talk of swapping; of their fantasies.

However, ...

8 Comments, 139 Views, 14 Votes ,4.10 Score
portorchardcoup 57 C
4  Articles
Isnt Easy   12/24/2012

you email you chat you share picks and you decide that you would like to me... You make the plans and you meet and on the surface all is cool...but under the conversation and laughter that lil spark required to get naked isnt what it should know it will never happen

been there done just isnt easy since the underlying reason for meeting was to get naked.....I would ...

3 Comments, 83 Views, 8 Votes ,4.64 Score
luvgunn27 37 M
10  Articles
why so hard   12/21/2012

Why is it so hard for someone to just say "no thanks" It seems to me that most people in general like to avoid confrontation and would just rather ignore a person then to respond.

6 Comments, 76 Views, 14 Votes ,2.98 Score
doctornock 47 M
2  Articles
How do you politely say NO?   12/19/2012

Just because I'm a guy it's assumed I want to sleep with every woman I see. How do you let someone down gently?

I mean sometimes it's not about straight up attraction or whatever, it can be about other stuff that's going on.

I don't want to hurt feelings, but then again I don't want to go home hating myself either...


4 Comments, 55 Views, 4 Votes ,3.25 Score
eptguy55 68 C
8  Articles
Nothing said.   12/19/2012

We met with a couple from HornyWife and had a nice dinner and good conversation. During the course of the evening, however I think they realized that neither of us were sexually attracted each other. We ended the night in a pleasant manner and departed. We see each other on occasion at a local club and speak and go our separate way with nothing ever said about swinging or swapping. So sometime you ...

3 Comments, 59 Views, 7 Votes ,3.30 Score
moxlolz 32 M
3  Articles
Does it ever bother you?   12/10/2012

When a girl acts like she wants it, then says no...

1 Comments, 32 Views, 4 Votes ,1.30 Score
A good friend wanting more...   12/10/2012

I have a great friend who has decided she wants more out of a relationship lately. I have always known her as my little sister but having trouble telling her no. Advice?

1 Comments, 44 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
XXXplaypal 62 M
12  Articles
Manners....   11/25/2012

Why do some people not takes a minute to say no thanks if they arent interested. It's only polite...

8 Comments, 62 Views, 7 Votes ,3.30 Score
prod1013 35 M
11  Articles
Respect   11/23/2012

Why do some not understand that a simple no means just Please people respect is essential if you respect others you will simply get much further in the lifestyle as well as in life.

1 Comments, 8 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
eptguy55 68 C
8  Articles
Breaking one of our rules.   11/8/2012

We met a couple here on HornyWife and conversed several times on line. After about two weeks, we agreed to meet at a local hotel bar, with the intent to get a room if everything worked out. We got there first and watched them walk in, they were a very attractive couple. They came over and introduced themselves and we hit it off very well. We were thinking this is going to be great until they informed ...

2 Comments, 190 Views, 7 Votes ,4.57 Score
portorchardcoup 57 C
4  Articles
No Thank You it stings only for a min   10/29/2012

We once had to have the most awkward of "No -Way back in the beginning, our first encounter actually..before the you spent time on the phone getting info and mental pictures from their descriptions. After a number of conversations we all agreed to drive half the distance to the other and meet for coffee.

They had got there first and looking for the car we drove and as we ...

0 Comments, 48 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
bigmoney22578 30 M
11  Articles
mm   10/27/2012

It Be Times When Some One ASk You If You Want This And That , but it want hurt you to tell them no thanks at times

0 Comments, 10 Views, 0 Votes
LioldyfrPasedena 86 F
13  Articles
Well   10/19/2012

The only time I say no thanks is when they have a little dick.

0 Comments, 17 Views, 4 Votes ,1.69 Score
seriously people?   9/12/2012

I completely understand that most guys my age are a complete pain in the ass and would probably make horrible swing partners but I would really love the common courtesy of a simple thanks but I/we are not interested.

2 Comments, 54 Views, 7 Votes ,3.30 Score
SmallTownSub 25 M
1  Article
at least you replied.   8/24/2012

If I see someone has viewed me, or has flirted with me, I check for them on the IM. If I do happen to find them there, I like to shoot them a message asking if they actually did. Most times they don't even respond, which is much worse than someone actually taking the time to tell me that they did, but aren't interested or that they accidentally clicked on my profile.

It means a lot for ...

6 Comments, 112 Views, 12 Votes ,2.80 Score
blackshirtj 46 M
1  Article
Why?   8/13/2012

I have come to notice that most people on this site are either to full of them selves to be polite or just don't care.

Personally, being ignored is a personal pet peeve and is the quickest way to piss me off. When you get a email or IM from me and take the time to look at my profile even if you are not interest you could do me the courtesy of saying sorry not interested vs just deleting ...

4 Comments, 66 Views, 11 Votes ,0.92 Score
nervouspervis469 46 M
3  Articles
Why are folks afraid to say "not interested", "thanks anyway", etc...   8/11/2012

Having been on here a while now, I have met some cool folks and exchanged emails here and off the site. What I just don't get though is the lack of response from members...

I've read and talked with others about how the sites full of fakes, nobody is real, etc...

Is that the reason for lack of response? Or is it lack of decency or some feeling of superiority? Something else?? ...

2 Comments, 65 Views, 9 Votes ,3.21 Score
mattinwang 54 M
1  Article
No thanks is ok but at least answer   7/6/2012

So you send a message and wait and the person not interested? Have they read your message? People should at least say no opinion

11 Comments, 102 Views, 11 Votes ,2.98 Score
One Should Accept No   6/27/2012

I am into swinging life style for last 8 years and over the years I have met many Couples and women.My experiences told me that No is a wonderful thing and one should accept it very gracefully. Not every one I met went forward to have sex. Many occasions we met and chemistry didn't worked out so we had our coffee or drink and left.Not many could take it gracefully and they bitch about you but few ...

0 Comments, 34 Views, 4 Votes ,0.92 Score
nobody328 26 M
23  Articles


1 Comments, 45 Views, 5 Votes
being nice   5/26/2012

saying no can be harder than saying yes? right? sometimes it is just easier to go with the flow and just sleep with a partner because easier than to say i dont like y64, that's life, you got to be strong.

0 Comments, 23 Views, 4 Votes ,0.92 Score
rm_oklaguy2010 55 M
1  Article
When Did Common Courtesy Go Out the Window?   5/24/2012

I am truly amazed at the rude behavior being exhibited on HornyWife these days. It hasn't always been this way. Ten years ago, people were much more courteous and kind. If you were not their type, they would politely say so.

Today, someone will message me or I them and once they realize I'm married or not "perfect", they simply disconnect without so much as a "sorry, your not my type" or ...

6 Comments, 102 Views, 7 Votes ,3.55 Score
Matureneedednow 19 M
1  Article
How do you do it ?   5/7/2012

How do you say "no thanks" to someone without coming across rude?

2 Comments, 55 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
Damu555555 31 M
11  Articles
Crazy   5/6/2012

The crazy ex who cant get enough of you

0 Comments, 25 Views, 0 Votes
lonelycasahotfr 37 M
8  Articles
drugs are bad   5/3/2012

sometimes when I date a girl, she comes up with this stupid idea to do drugs, weed or white powder. It's really annoying, as if drugs enhance your stamina or improve your mindset

you just have to say no thanks, bang her and move on...

0 Comments, 33 Views, 7 Votes ,1.00 Score
babyneedsitnow 55 C
1  Article
We think No means No   4/22/2012

If someone is hesitant in any way shape or form then respect of their wish is imperative.

2 Comments, 56 Views, 8 Votes ,2.09 Score
LTRwhornyman 60 F
3  Articles
Courtesy is very easy to offer   3/20/2012

We can't account for the behavior of other people but we can account for our own behavior. Being on an adult sight doesn't give anyone a license to be a jerk.

There are lots of folks here without photos or any identifying information which I understand completely but the shame is that this level of anonymity often leads to very bad other words a lack of general human ...

6 Comments, 53 Views, 8 Votes ,4.17 Score
Let's try it   3/11/2012

Small cub Friend alway say no ? He saw he wanted only he he had a big dick but he was all total safe -sez bottom. Good sex ass and friend for me.I says being a Total Top yes!

Small cub, finding top guys to bend his little ass oversize-ones with a thanks.

1 Comments, 19 Views, 0 Votes
Hard To Do   3/10/2012

It is difficult to say no thanks. A friend wanted to do the nasty, but I really was not interested. I flirted with her before, but never thought she was interested. She made her feelings known and I had to say no. That's unusual for a HO like me, but ....

0 Comments, 1 Views, 0 Votes
ardentsarcasm 51 M
0  Articles
What is so hard about saying no thanks/what is so hard about accepting no thanks?   2/8/2012

For the ladies

If a guy consistently emails and emails and emails, or tries to hard in any way, with no established relationship its easy, Im just not interested, but thank you, its very flattering. If a guy shows up on a date and he's not your type, it is uncomfortable, but the fake cell phone call about your //family member having a fever is way worse than just saying "I just don't ...

4 Comments, 66 Views, 4 Votes ,4.02 Score
__A_J__ 47 F
9  Articles
What's the problem?   2/1/2012

I don't believe a lot of people understand what the two words 'no thanks' means. How many times does a person need to say it? ...

6 Comments, 96 Views, 23 Votes ,3.60 Score
Offended   1/29/2012

WHY do single men, get offended when a couple tells you NO, even when its posted ALL OVER OUR Fing PAGE?


2 Comments, 87 Views, 10 Votes ,2.59 Score
treasurepurrsbk 65 F
1  Article
No Thank you to Smokers   1/20/2012

I say over and over No thankyou .why cant a person understand No thankyou Im alergic to tobbacco. No matter how you try cover it up how sexy you think you are or how youll quit after No thankyou .I like to breathe

5 Comments, 70 Views, 11 Votes ,3.92 Score
darekprince 22 M
5  Articles
I just cant   12/22/2011

Have you ever had that one guy that no matter how much you tell yourself no and that you can do better still gets to you some how? Well I have a guy like that. Ever since the first time we hooked up I just cant say no. He can go without talking to me for a month but when he calls me or texts me to hook up I fight a little or make myself unavailable, but the sex is so hot that I just give in ...

6 Comments, 133 Views, 6 Votes ,3.65 Score
caguy45 58 M
1  Article
Distance Rejection   12/19/2011

I reject people who live more than 100 miles away and they get very upset typically. I dont understand why so many long distance people contact me and why they get huffy when I say no. Just happened todat with somone over 2000 miles away, and NO photo to send!

6 Comments, 98 Views, 8 Votes ,3.94 Score
badgirlfriend97 42 F
3  Articles
Please dont be a dick   12/9/2011

My profile plainly states im looking for a specific thing so please dont be a dick when you contact me and show what you dont have and im not interested. I know that makes me sound like a bitch i just know what i want and if you dont have it dont pretend you do in my opion your actualy the douch for wasting our time.

4 Comments, 225 Views, 18 Votes ,3.94 Score
silkyfine25 39 F
2  Articles
I'm just not Interested   12/7/2011

I get a number of emails, some i find very interesting and others i don't...I have no problem with respectfully declineing anyone if i don't feel there is a honest attraction....But i have noticed that i get alot of rude and tasteless emails as a reply, so my question is should i just ignore those that i'm not interested in or do i continue being repectful and letting them know that i'm not ...

6 Comments, 134 Views, 11 Votes ,2.98 Score
fisherman197008 51 M
17  Articles
always be both polite and firm   12/2/2011

I have found that when I am not interested in someone that being honest is best, you should try to be polite but firm, that way it spares hard feelings and embarasment for them. the honesty should be appreciated.their feelings may be a little hurt, but they will respect you for being honest.

0 Comments, 11 Views, 1 Votes ,3.70 Score
I always say NO when...   11/11/2011

I get a message that is completely idiotic. I will not even give anybody a second if they message me and the first thing they say is "let me suck you". I like to talk to people and see who they are, what they are about!

4 Comments, 98 Views, 11 Votes ,6.35 Score
Drinking   10/26/2011

Do you find it hard to just tell people that you don't drink? Every time I do, people look at me funny...

0 Comments, 22 Views, 4 Votes ,3.25 Score
Rejected because I wear condoms   10/25/2011

I recently met an attractive woman on this site. We talked for a little bit, then talked about meeting up. She asked me if I was fine with having sex without using condoms. At first I thought it was a joke, but she was very serious. I politely declined. Everyone be smart and be safe theres a lot of nasty things out there that can alter your life forever.

2 Comments, 67 Views, 3 Votes ,4.41 Score
jam7292000 75 M
5  Articles
Saying no is ok   10/20/2011

Too often there is no response to an email or IM. And I understand that people are very rude. Remember that it is the choice of the person to say yes or no and calling them names because there is a negative response to your email is not the answer.

0 Comments, 10 Views, 0 Votes
im4xtc4u2 75 M
12  Articles
Be courtious !!   10/14/2011

Too often no one answers an inquiry and that leaves a large void. It doesnt take a lot of time to simply say, thank you for asking but no thank you. It is just a nice courtesy.

3 Comments, 55 Views, 5 Votes ,1.84 Score
Where are the manners?   9/29/2011

I get it...not everyone is gonna be compatible and there is some amount of pure physical attraction that needs to go on for a connection to happen. BUT if there isn't, why can't people just say "thanks, nice meeting you, but i'm not interested".

Dunno, seems pretty simple and much nicer than ending the conversation, never to hear from them again - message is the same, but just a more ...

5 Comments, 93 Views, 7 Votes ,4.31 Score
standymanlyman 42 M
1  Article
Thanks but no thanks   9/22/2011

Just keep right on walking Just keep right on walking

Dont dilly-dally, come right home I dont see why I must go home When in the streets the niceties Come pouring out and over me Its three oclock and here they come So many that my eyes are numb Familiar faces each and all But I've been ordered not to stall Thanks but no thanks, anywa I know that youre all OK, but My orders come from ...

0 Comments, 15 Views, 0 Votes
How   9/10/2011

What would be the easiest way to say No Thanks. Always wonder what the other person may feel.

0 Comments, 10 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
bbw_austin22 34 F
3  Articles
no means no   8/30/2011

i'm i old fashioned to think that everyone should understand that NO MEANS NO?

2 Comments, 110 Views, 20 Votes ,4.53 Score
takemeasiam74 50 M
10  Articles
no means no   8/16/2011

why cant some people just understand no means no, and respect the other person view.

0 Comments, 29 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
JJMD1991 32 M
12  Articles
No means no   8/4/2011

When you want something and the other person doesn't feel the same. Stop if they don't want nothing to do with it. Or you are a duece bag and need help.

0 Comments, 5 Views, 1 Votes ,5.00 Score
rm_zitalnbuf 40 M
3  Articles
The right thing   7/16/2011

So man games...if your not interested, a simply "no thanks" is the right and decent thing to do...

0 Comments, 66 Views, 4 Votes ,2.47 Score
pipelayer882 49 M
8  Articles
BBW   7/13/2011

I have recently met a few ladies who have seem to have outgrown their profile pics, and it made me feel a little................ awkward! I have no problem with women with a little weight on them, but when they show up waaayyy bigger than you expect, then it's a problem for me. Anyone agree?

2 Comments, 72 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
Best way to meet a girl on here   6/19/2011

I have met women in the past for dates and right away I know I am not interested. I would hate to have a girl come to my house for the first time and not want to have sex with her from this site. I would feel guilty and give it to her anyway. What is the best way to figure out if this girl is worthy? Do you meet them somewhere real quick in public and make sure the sexual connection is there??

9 Comments, 169 Views, 15 Votes ,2.82 Score
How many have sad "NO THANKS"   6/17/2011

Does it knock you confidence when a woman or man says "NO" to sex?

3 Comments, 79 Views, 3 Votes ,2.94 Score
no thanks   6/17/2011

i dont know why, but saying no thanks is hard for me. should be the easiest thing. when i want to say no, i just ignore the comment or question that was thrown at me. it shouldnt have to be that way, but thats just the way it is. im sure not all people are like this, but i am, and im sure im not alone

0 Comments, 2 Views, 0 Votes
jhernan327 40 M
2  Articles
How to Say No in the Bedroom   6/2/2011

How To Say No To...

...the nice guy-nice, but not your type-who asks you on a date:

1 "I'm sorry, I can't." If you're feeling weak, you can add, "I'm seeing someone." If you have no spine whatsoever, you can start with "I'm very flattered, but..."

...your partner, who's suggesting a far-out sexual act:

2 Look appalled and shriek, "What is wrong with ...

0 Comments, 52 Views, 6 Votes ,4.22 Score
Saying No Thanks   5/31/2011

Why do a lot of men get upset and become very rude when you decline their offer. Just because a woman is on here does not mean she is desperate, and one who jumps in bed with every offer on here.

21 Comments, 233 Views, 29 Votes ,5.55 Score
rm_crazibs 45 M
11  Articles
How to say "No"   5/31/2011

Which do you think is better beating around the bush or like removing ripping off a bandaide

0 Comments, 26 Views, 1 Votes
sex4_u_on_a_stix 43 M
3  Articles
Almost scammed!   5/18/2011

I must start with how HornyWife is a Terrific site and how quick and helpful they were on acting with my problem.

It started with a member leaving a wink I checked out his page and Who-ow he was cute. I left a wink and hot listed him now we have all done that Yes!

This is were it begins the emails back and forth nothing vulgar or offensive, just innocent emails.

After a few ...

1 Comments, 245 Views, 8 Votes ,5.10 Score
If she says no, respect it!   5/8/2011

dont ever get mad because she said no, you dont know what her day was, what her life has been lately. just be respectful and say "ok" be a gentlemen, not a d-bag.

4 Comments, 60 Views, 13 Votes ,6.00 Score
rm_3some2013 29 C
2  Articles
no   5/6/2011

Do anyone understand no n e more?

5 Comments, 64 Views, 6 Votes ,4.22 Score
wantitrllllybad 37 M
3  Articles
Why does she get mad   4/12/2011

Eveytime i tell he ri don't want to have sex she gets upset

5 Comments, 84 Views, 4 Votes ,1.30 Score
8inshape47 55 M
13  Articles
Condom use   4/8/2011

i have been rejected a couple of times because i want to wear condoms all the time...why do women turn me away because i am concerned about my health, not to mention i might have no idea if they are 100% clean or not?

6 Comments, 197 Views, 13 Votes ,4.32 Score
Sometimes you just have to say "NO"   4/3/2011

If there is just no attraction, yeah sometimes you just have to take one for your own team, and say thank you, but I don't want another. But if she is cross-eyed, dresses like she was straight out of the forties, has a hunch back and is overweight, then pay for the dinner, walk her to her car and just apologize you're just not turned on by her. Don't cave because she offers you oral sex, and when ...

2 Comments, 46 Views, 5 Votes ,2.16 Score
FlaCpl4Female 50 C
9  Articles
Best way   3/29/2011

What is your preferred way to tell someone you are not interested? Does it get any easier over time? Some people make it simple by being assholes but it's tough when nice people have to be told no.

5 Comments, 101 Views, 10 Votes ,2.99 Score
What do you do?   3/9/2011

Say you have been chatting and finally meet, the pics she sent are awesome and you are really looking forward to it. When she shows, you find out the pics are old and she doesn't look anything like that do you say thanks, but, NO THANKS!

7 Comments, 71 Views, 7 Votes ,2.28 Score
josmith5 61 M
1466  Articles
The Joys of Artfull Rejection.......   2/18/2011

1.) Man: "Haven't we met before?" Woman: "Yes, I'm the receptionist at the V.D. Clinic."

2.) In the department of "nice turn downs" there's this one: I'll have to think about that, thinking makes me tired, when I'm tired I want to sleep, not make love, so let's not, okay?

3.) Man: "So, wanna go back to my place?" Woman: "Well, I don't know. Will two people fit under a rock?" ...

2 Comments, 81 Views, 8 Votes ,5.33 Score
it is vital   2/15/2011

have to be able to say no thanks, but so hard to hear when someone is so good...

1 Comments, 15 Views, 1 Votes ,3.70 Score
biggnhard09 43 M
3  Articles

i was wondering how you could say this without sounding rude or mean, help

5 Comments, 122 Views, 9 Votes ,4.07 Score
NO NO NO   2/13/2011

What does it realy take before someone gets the hint and understands that no means NO.

2 Comments, 45 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
mauiluvahz1987 32 C
1  Article
blah   2/1/2011

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6 Comments, 66 Views, 1 Votes
rm_2U4U2 60 F
6  Articles
Really dont know how to describe this   1/22/2011

but I really have a sex secret. Its like so bad thar I could loose my job and what is left of my relationship if u want to call it that.

I guess there is only one way of saying this. I been having sex with multiple men at the same time many times over. I love it and the more men there r, the more I want them fuck me and let thier friends know that I am a sex starved pussy who can take ...

5 Comments, 333 Views, 17 Votes ,2.98 Score
Rorshausk 28 M
13  Articles
gay guys   1/8/2011

im not interested in them. at this site they keep iming me asking me to show my ass or cock off.

pretty sick of telling them no. i need to go to a site that actually has chicks there

4 Comments, 60 Views, 4 Votes ,4.02 Score
rm_manz634 36 M
5  Articles
turning down a friend from becoming more.   1/1/2011

A few years back while going to college in fresno california i met a very pretty girl there while in political science class. we started chatting and as break time came along we went to the breakroom to get something to eat, while there we chatted and got to know one another a little bettter. she had been adopted when she was a and told me about her family background and her ambitions and goals ...

2 Comments, 165 Views, 8 Votes ,1.62 Score
josmith5 61 M
1466  Articles
Bill and Lynn   12/20/2010

For months Bill had been Lynn`s devoted admirer. At long last he had collected sufficient courage to ask her the momentousquestion."There are quite a lot of advantages to being a bachelor, " Bill began, "but there comes a time when one longs for the companionship of another being, a being who will regard one as perfect, as an idol; whom one can treat as one`s absolute own; who will be kind and ...

0 Comments, 68 Views, 4 Votes ,4.80 Score
mrmoto3 57 M
11  Articles
The Magic Pussy   12/1/2010

Well I'm not sure if I should let you in a on little secret. What's so special about my horny wife that I just have to tell every one who can read the printed word ? Fair enough keep reading and see for yourself.I've changed the names of all involved. So if you shout out her name in the heat of you know.

My wife Carrie is absolutly drop dead ...

5 Comments, 335 Views, 11 Votes ,1.67 Score
a gentle way   11/25/2010

One of the most frustrating things on dating sites like this is the limbo that members put you in by not replying. You probably sent a letter, maybe even a follow-up or two. No answer + no reply = NO COURTESY. No one likes to wonder and guess what's going on, so just send a simple reply. You don't have to write a lengthy letter of explanation, just a few words. Keep in mind we are all SUPPOSEDLY ...

13 Comments, 288 Views, 29 Votes ,6.85 Score
nonprobbwtranny 32 T
15  Articles
Saying no to Submissive men   11/6/2010

I'm having to say no thanks to guys that are looking to be submissive. I say that Two bottoms don't make a top. Im a feminine submissive bottom bitch and Im woman enough for a strong masculine man. I dont need someone else waring panties, waving their ass, and being a subby bitch.

I even put hat on my profile, that I am only a submissive looking for a dom.

Anyone else having ...

1 Comments, 92 Views, 7 Votes ,3.04 Score
nonprobbwtranny 32 T
15  Articles

So, I sgree to meet this guy form here. The last couple of meetings before him were actually pretty good. Not bad at all. One was just a little TOO horny, but still not bad. One was perfect. Another was good too.

But this one guy from this week..... omg. He forgot to tell me he was missing half his front teeth. Among other things. I was felt that he was ...

3 Comments, 156 Views, 5 Votes ,3.14 Score
Hnovaro55 33 M
10  Articles
So what guys have had to say "no thanks"?   11/1/2010

You always see talk about girls being the ones who have issues with telling guys no, but what guys have had to do the same?

0 Comments, 39 Views, 3 Votes ,4.41 Score
_JKH_ 69 M
858  Articles
Sex and Marriage !   10/26/2010

Sex is the price women have to pay for marriage. Marriage is the price men have to pay for marriage. ...

2 Comments, 59 Views, 21 Votes
nonprobbwtranny 32 T
15  Articles
When you say no...and they persist...sometimes you have to get ugly   10/24/2010

Sometimes, I will get replies from guys that read my profile, notice that they are NOT what I am lookiung for, yet still contact me. I think thats rude and a waiset of time. They also get "beggy" and presistant. Sometimes, I have to get ugly.

What do you do in situations like that?

5 Comments, 72 Views, 7 Votes ,3.04 Score
DonJuan7622 40 M
10  Articles
how to   10/12/2010

whats the best way to say no?

0 Comments, 16 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
JDam840 39 M
1  Article
no   9/27/2010

I just wanted to express that I am not, let me repete, I AM NOT, intersted in other men, there will be no dick sucking or the like with another man. I have posted that ts are ok, but the passable ones, the ones that have all the necessary parts to make them look like a woman. A fat man, that cross dresses, that has man boobs, AKA no brest implants, can not say he has size DD tits, they are still ...

1 Comments, 53 Views, 5 Votes ,3.14 Score
pinktemptress 41 F
1  Article
wots the easiest way   9/22/2010

without sayin the obvious 2 a guy wots the easiest way ov sayin thanks but no thanks without hurtin any1s feelings lol x

4 Comments, 85 Views, 10 Votes ,3.19 Score
Sending a reply message   9/6/2010

If a person sends you an email try to be nice enough to reply back even if you are not interested. Lots on here use points to send emails and are not sure if the email was even received. So be nice enough to send a reply.

8 Comments, 127 Views, 13 Votes ,5.66 Score
Traumst7 39 M
7  Articles
Question for the guys   9/5/2010

So I'm asking. Would it bother you guys if you were single, to sleep with a girl who was attatched?

2 Comments, 52 Views, 5 Votes ,3.14 Score
benallaboy 56 M
1  Article
Old photos   9/3/2010

What do you do when you chat to someone...get all friendly...then make the step and the person has posted a 10 year old photo? You cant say my how youve grown..

4 Comments, 121 Views, 9 Votes ,3.64 Score
ahhhh no........   9/3/2010

What is the best way to get away from someone you absolutely have ZERO interest in yet they think you are the stuff ? I have tried being nice. We are not "friends" she is just one in the crowd.

4 Comments, 60 Views, 3 Votes ,2.45 Score
on average...   8/25/2010

Curious ... I would like some advice on how to say "no thanks"; i.e. let someone down, especially upon meeting in a nice way. I'm usually blunt and just say, 'I don't feel like there is a connection' or 'something is missing'.

But the ladies usually want specifics, and I don't want to be cruel to someone. I could use some good lines that aren't fake, but would help with ...

2 Comments, 84 Views, 6 Votes ,3.08 Score
studlyguy8922 39 M
2  Articles
this one is easy   8/2/2010

the simple way of doing it is just be as polite as you can and just simply say no thanks. if they cant handle it its not your problem and if they get pissy i say oh well its not the first time someone has been mad at me and damn sure wont be the last so they have a long line to stand in lol

5 Comments, 45 Views, 7 Votes ,4.06 Score
racquel76 47 F
3  Articles
whymen call u a bitch   8/1/2010

Why is it that when a man sends u multiple messages trying to get your attention, and when you ignor them they call u afat bitch... I dont get it who was emailing who i the first place.

17 Comments, 274 Views, 17 Votes ,4.26 Score
josmith5 61 M
1466  Articles
???   7/31/2010

If a women is uncomfortable watching you masturbate, do you think:

(A) You need more time together ( She's a prude (C) She should of sat elsewhere on the bus

1 Comments, 35 Views, 9 Votes ,2.36 Score
xNBKxUT 40 M
1  Article
Walking the walk.   7/16/2010

Ok boys and girls this is just a quick little piece on "saying no". We all know we have been in situations that put us in a position of weakness or addiction, especially when it comes to matters of lust and love. How we comprehend and what actions we take regarding this weakness is what makes the difference between a healthy relationship and a toxic one. Any time you feel the need to justify, ...

1 Comments, 62 Views, 7 Votes ,3.55 Score
summertaiwan2010 36 M
2  Articles
??   7/4/2010

Iv been getting texts/calls from a girl who wants to meet for sex only. Met her in a club and had some dinner a few days after.

Not sure if i should do it or not...

0 Comments, 20 Views, 0 Votes
guys   7/1/2010

ok so i got on the im last night for the first time and all the guys started trying to talk to me sorry guys its me and my bf and we r only looking for girls thanks for the interest but not interested in guys i already have a man and that is my bf and we dont wnt a three way with a dude. SORRY!!!

0 Comments, 57 Views, 5 Votes ,3.80 Score
bubb4363 55 M
6  Articles
no thanks   6/30/2010

how hard is it for you to date, the same person, for a time, and every time sex come up, its always no thanks. when do you say good bye.

2 Comments, 59 Views, 2 Votes ,1.04 Score
__A_J__ 47 F
9  Articles
Whatever!   6/6/2010

I don't believe a lot of people understand what the two words no thanks means. How many times does a person need to say it? ...

16 Comments, 160 Views, 33 Votes ,5.99 Score
_JKH_ 69 M
858  Articles
Watch it !   5/21/2010

Your life can be changed in a matter of seconds by someone who doesn't even know you yet. ...

3 Comments, 117 Views, 12 Votes ,2.80 Score
_JKH_ 69 M
858  Articles
Credentials!   5/21/2010

Credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being....

2 Comments, 37 Views, 12 Votes ,1.92 Score
nvrgetsenuf 50 F
11  Articles
How Many Times Does A Lady Have to Politely Say No?   5/14/2010

Before she can't just flat out be rude? Have you ever been there?

My profile(check it out) is written to weed out the "undesireables." Sometimes it works & sometimes it doesn't. There always has to be one that thinks if he can just get you to say yes to meeting him he can sweet talk you into giving up some of that sweet stuff. You know the one I'm talking about...

He writes & ...

9 Comments, 172 Views, 16 Votes ,4.74 Score
_JKH_ 69 M
858  Articles
Worry !   5/12/2010

Most of the stuff people worry about ain't never gonna happen anyway. ...

1 Comments, 31 Views, 10 Votes ,0.60 Score
Why do people do that?   5/2/2010

I need a little perspective on why people will start chatting and emailing you on here and you seem to get along well ... then you agree to exchange pics and then "POOF" once the woman gets your pic they disappear without a word. I mean I can understand that they get the pic and see that one is not their type ... but is it really all that hard to just say that so there is closure? Why do people ...

8 Comments, 208 Views, 11 Votes ,3.54 Score
_JKH_ 69 M
858  Articles
Wondering !   4/29/2010

Sometimes saying, "No thanks, " will have you wondering later on if you were right, and sometimes you'll find out later on from an event, that you made a great decision in saying, "No thanks!" ...

1 Comments, 46 Views, 24 Votes
justlovepussy88 35 M
1  Article
Bi/Gay won't leave you alone?   4/11/2010

Wow I have this issue where I can't get bi/gay guys in my area to stop messaging me about getting some secret head...anyone else have these issues?

1 Comments, 71 Views, 3 Votes ,4.90 Score
youngfunguyIL 39 M
6  Articles
Why?   4/5/2010

So this one goes 2 ways. Why do single ladies rule out out young guys on average and... Why why why why why do gays guys think that straight guys want oral? lmao.

4 Comments, 55 Views, 3 Votes ,2.45 Score
starbrite 42 F
1  Article
Have fun but be careful   3/21/2010

Coming out of high school I had only had sex a couple of times and at that time I really didn't care for it. How thangs have changed. But the first time I considered having sex with someone that wasn't my boyfriend was with a guy we will call bob. The first time I saw him I got wet and I wanted him so bad. I would lay in my bed at night and cum all over my fingers thinking about him kissing ...

6 Comments, 362 Views, 20 Votes ,4.53 Score
bmarietoo 54 C
5  Articles
strippers   3/14/2010

male half

it's been years since i've been but the best way i've found to get rid of strippers who want to table dance for you is to have a line ready. mine have been, "sorry, you look too much like my wife." and "sorry, i'm saving all my money for the massage parlor afterwards".

any other good one liners? have some fun.

2 Comments, 113 Views, 8 Votes ,3.01 Score
rm_wjb311 38 M
3  Articles
be nice!...or not   2/27/2010

a girl like you, but you are not attracted to her or the fact that she dropped out of high instead of telling her that - you just say " I don't want a relationship at this time". but she is relentless, wanting to hang out as friends. to be blunt, she just isnt getting it. so, maybe not wanting to hurt someones feelings isnt a safe outlet...?

2 Comments, 53 Views, 5 Votes ,2.49 Score
tnawood3 54 C
1  Article
Is chivalry still out there?   2/27/2010

I would hope politeness is still alive and well in today's swinging lifestyle..I mean...So many unanswered e-mails...just makes ya wonder how some people are being brought up.? It's not hard to reply to a nice email someone took the time to write. At least this is our take on it. What do you think? We dont respond to nasty emails...or one liners....But a well thought out email goes a long way to ...

3 Comments, 80 Views, 8 Votes ,4.17 Score
Adventurer333 56 M
18  Articles
Easier for Women to Say No?   2/22/2010

Is it easier for a woman to say "No thanks" then a man?

When meeting for the first coffee, I am not always interested in following through. But I also feel like I can't say no at that point. I have, and it wasn't well received even though I did try to be gentle.

I am wondering if the male stereotype comes into play: men don't say no to sex.

Women are propositioned more ...

4 Comments, 90 Views, 5 Votes ,4.77 Score
crazyshelly87 36 F
1  Article
no thank you   1/11/2010

Hey everyone it's ok to say no thank you. When you do people should respect that.

3 Comments, 62 Views, 6 Votes ,4.50 Score
chrisomaha 44 M
11  Articles
when saying no thanks politely doesn't go over   1/8/2010

sometimes it seems like i am very careful to pick my wording in my response, and i am still treated very rudely to someone i didn't pursue in the first place. i try to say things that won't hurt any feelings, stay respectful, and still are firm that i am not interested. i am wondering what everyone else does when this doesn't seem to do the trick and now some rude person won't leave me alone.

2 Comments, 27 Views, 5 Votes ,3.80 Score
rm_krisshh81 33 M
14  Articles
Say 'no thanks' the right way   1/7/2010

Overview: It's a good practice to let job candidates know when they haven't gotten the job. Use this sample thanks-but-no-thanks letter to build goodwill with people who may be a better match for future positions.

One of the least pleasant aspects of the hiring process is conveying to candidates your decision to pass them over. But if you've decided to eliminate someone from contention ...

5 Comments, 57 Views, 5 Votes ,1.84 Score
sdfg20081 55 M
1  Article
I'm not sure how to say it but.... "No Thanks"   12/18/2009

Recently, I received an invitation to a 'party' that included men and women having fun, as we do. The invitation was amazing as it had me down as one of the one kinda-single guys to be there.

My arousal peaked as well as my normal paranoias of being discreet. I emailed back that I would be interested and a day later received the location and address. It also included the caveat that i ...

2 Comments, 102 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
Is it better to ignore   12/18/2009

I was just wondering how many people out there, have expressed intrest in someone, who wrote, only to be ignored by the person.Isn't it more polite to kindly say your not intrested, then to ignore the person and leave them hanging?

5 Comments, 119 Views, 7 Votes ,2.28 Score
KTP77 45 M
1  Article
Big Girls   12/10/2009

I'm looking for a kind way to walk away from big girls on this site without hurting anyone's feelings. Can someone please offer some advice.

18 Comments, 311 Views, 13 Votes ,3.48 Score
cw101 47 M
2  Articles
being polite but firm   12/9/2009

Well having read a few of the articles - it seems we're all more or less on the same frequency as it were.

Ive had quite a few occasions in the past where despite what my profile says - ie in a relationship and not looking to play, a few folks have been rather insistent - Ive found it an exercise in politeness but also firmness.

There do seem to be quite a few people for whom no ...

2 Comments, 73 Views, 6 Votes ,4.50 Score
How do you tell a couple no thanks after meeting them?   12/5/2009

Weve not had to experience this yet because all the couples we played with were great, but how do you tell a couple no after meeting up with them and it's not what you want?

4 Comments, 90 Views, 8 Votes ,4.64 Score
notjustonceTN 61 M
1  Article
I know, we've all encountered someone who...   11/29/2009

... can't take a hint, a direct "no thanks", or even sometimes a baseball bat over the head to understand that you're not interested. Especially the ones that are standard members and can't read profiles, but still can't grasp it when you describe your situation/desires and keep pressing to meet you.

Someone needs to design hardware so you can send an electric shock back to someone who ...

4 Comments, 122 Views, 3 Votes ,1.96 Score
wantotry74 43 M
8  Articles
respect for the individual   11/4/2009

Lets prove some of these nay Sayers wrong and show that we can be grown ups' and get together for real hook ups.Life's too short for lead on's and game playing.Just be true to others and leave the mind games away from this place.Know one would want to be treated like that, what makes it okay for you to do it to others.Just be yourself, life's too short!!

1 Comments, 29 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
josmith5 61 M
1466  Articles
when just saying no isnt enough...   11/1/2009

Guy: I would go to the end of the world for you! Girl: Yea but would you stay there?

Man:is this seat empty?

Woman:yes and this one will be too if you sit down!

Man:your bodys like a temple

Woman:sorry no sevice today.

Him: your place or mine

You: both, you go to yours, and i will go to mine

Sleazy Guyo you come here often? ...

2 Comments, 45 Views, 9 Votes ,1.93 Score
rm_bobbysgirl72 36 C
2  Articles
Taking a break   10/25/2009

It came suddenly I'm sure for my husband but one night, I asked him how he would feel about suspending our HornyWife account temporarily. He asked reply....I just want to take a break. It seemed like so much pressure to have sex with EVERYONE and that is NOT who I am or he is for that matter. I wanted to slow down and get back to us and remember what it was to feel passion instead of just ...

8 Comments, 262 Views, 13 Votes ,4.65 Score
playhouse40 48 C
2  Articles
No Thanks   10/13/2009

How can another person say that they didnt c the sign when a person is no interest n then u shouldnt have 2 hurt some 1 feeling 2 say No Thanks !That person already knows they just dont want 2 accept the facts , no calls, no chat, no time and they cant get the picture mmmmmmmmm They got just leave me alone can they get that Live, Laugh, Love!

2 Comments, 61 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
SoFloTgirl 60 T
8  Articles
Nancy Reagan said it 1st   10/12/2009

Yes she did!

1 Comments, 32 Views, 0 Votes
dirtysexysailor8 28 M
3  Articles
i never say no   9/29/2009

no is not in my vocabulary especially when it comes to sex i will always try it atleast once! it is ok to say no but i just never do!

2 Comments, 78 Views, 5 Votes ,0.86 Score
wantotry74 43 M
8  Articles
just say so   9/24/2009

I remember old saying that went something like this:treat others the way you would want to be treated...Life's too short for games---don't lead others on.It's just not cool.A simple "no Thanks" should work just fine...

1 Comments, 48 Views, 5 Votes ,2.49 Score
How saying " No Thanks"?   9/18/2009

Hello all,

Many ladies are trying to contact me here... In some I am interest and in other I am not. When you are not interest in someone you can build a real realation, right? or even be honest in your feeling? Is there a way to say No thanks smoothly without hearting her?


1 Comments, 38 Views, 6 Votes ,2.51 Score
_JKH_ 69 M
858  Articles
Here's one way !   8/25/2009

Just tell whoever that your seeing someone and you don't want to cheat on them. ...

4 Comments, 78 Views, 31 Votes
1guyneed2girl 36 C
11  Articles
too what   8/10/2009

never say never to sex drugs always say no and then u will be safe

2 Comments, 38 Views, 2 Votes ,3.12 Score
BRON13 37 M
7  Articles
passing   8/4/2009

whats the best line you used to reject someone

1 Comments, 72 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
Dickeymo69 47 M
4  Articles
What's worse?   7/22/2009

Being horny as hell and laying in bed next to a hot chick or guy you can't fuck (for whatever reason) or being horny as hell and laying in bed next to a hot chick/guy that won't fuck you?

8 Comments, 70 Views, 3 Votes ,2.45 Score
sync94 49 M
10  Articles
Really No Thanks?   7/21/2009

Saying No is not taken lightly by some.Saying No Thanks is a strong suggestion that the person really means the opposite. Men are attracted to women who use the NO word and always confuse the situation by thinking it means YES. For the life of me I cannot understand why? People are the same anywhere you go. They argue about everything then say no. When the opportunity comes for them to say really ...

5 Comments, 98 Views, 5 Votes ,2.82 Score
Doulikefun 53 M
2  Articles
When to run away??   6/29/2009

Recently I met up with a lady in Cambridge who seemed on the surface to be a normal, relatively sexy woman. She had a few more tattoos than I was expecting but they seemed tasteful. She was in pretty good shape and it turned out she was a black belt in karate. On leaving the bar where we met I asked is she was ticklish and she said no and dont - I took this to mean please tickle me now, but when ...

7 Comments, 170 Views, 5 Votes ,3.14 Score
_JKH_ 69 M
858  Articles
Fatal attraction !   6/9/2009

Fatal attractions can come from just merely saying, "No thanks!"

Have you ever known this to happen to anyone near to you?

3 Comments, 96 Views, 33 Votes
rm_tlswordsman 33 M
1  Article
Not saying no means no?   6/2/2009

How many of you just leave an email unanswered if you're not interested?

How many of you actually reply to say "No thanks"?

18 Comments, 173 Views, 12 Votes ,3.15 Score
kvv202020 35 F
5  Articles
Ok this has been on my mind...   5/3/2009

so i have a general guideline when it comes to guys, i prefer guys between 18 and 26, but it seems that i get more emails and IMs from guys who are over do i nicely let them down?

9 Comments, 212 Views, 8 Votes ,3.01 Score
How do YOU handle this?   4/26/2009

Let's say you have made a connection here (or on another site, whatever...) and you finally meet. You discover that there is just not a good connection there, or no real attraction... what do you say? How do you handle that situation without hurting their feelings? This has happened to me a couple times, and I never want to hurt someone's feelings, but you also can't pretend there's a ...

11 Comments, 205 Views, 16 Votes ,5.77 Score
the lead on......   4/17/2009

Were all adults here-hence the name 'HornyWife'please just be up front and honest-if your not interested just come out and say it.......

4 Comments, 59 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
1  Article
Here is a scenario:   4/13/2009

We, as a couple, choose to play together with women..not necessarily other couples. We get propositioned all the time from couples that want us to come play with them. As inviting an offer as it is, we have more of an interest in playing with the female counter part of the couple as opposed to both of them. We do not full swap, as of yet, but most of these couples want us to "equally" share the ...

4 Comments, 83 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
wildcatr27 52 F
11  Articles
why when we say 'no thank you'?   4/4/2009

Some guys say when they have been told No thank you, well 'your loss'

why is it my loss? if i don't think we match for whatever reason, how can that then be my loss.

It makes me laugh cause I can only assume that they think they are gods gift and that i should be grateful or something. To me a loss is losing someone who dies not someone I am not interested in having sex with. ...

10 Comments, 142 Views, 10 Votes ,2.99 Score
what is it..   3/15/2009

with people who cant take no for an answer? why are there so many nuts out there that think just because you slept with them a couple times you are meant to be together forever?

3 Comments, 63 Views, 7 Votes ,3.80 Score
wildcatr27 52 F
11  Articles
why not just accept the response no thanks   3/11/2009

wasn't sure whether to put this in the 'saying 'no thanks' or the rants & raves

So many times I get contacted by the same people who I have said no thanks to as politely as I can.

But yet they still do it and some even then become abusive about it.

One has even called me a 'saddo' today who 'needs a life' because I didn't want to talk to the pictureless, one line ...

6 Comments, 87 Views, 8 Votes ,4.87 Score
rm_hedonist5251 65 C
2  Articles
why why no pics?   3/7/2009

After being on this scene on and off for over 20 years we've come to realise its a total absolute waste of time and breath asking people to put SOME kind of pics in profile! Despite us sayin they dont have to be facial or explicit, still they dont! its especialy difficult if you're a standard member and therefore cant access some profiles fully. so that one little pic we CAN see makes ALL ...

7 Comments, 126 Views, 15 Votes ,4.05 Score
c00k132 45 F
3  Articles
Sore Losers...   1/27/2009

I had a guy email me with interest of talking and I politely told him he had a great profile, seemed like a nice guy, but I had recently started dating someone/am looking for a girl to join us.

His reply got him blocked by HornyWife...

What is the appropiate way to say "No thanks"...if there is one on here?...

7 Comments, 251 Views, 21 Votes ,5.97 Score
When a woman says no   1/20/2009

I'm sorry for all those guys who don't understand the word... NO! When you meet a woman and there's just no attraction and she tells you so. Normally that means one thing leave her alone! Not continue to harass and bother her. It's just creepy and weird to have someone following your every move and having to check up on you after you tell them that you want nothing to do with ...

5 Comments, 95 Views, 11 Votes ,3.54 Score
bigbadwolf72779 44 M
2  Articles
Why can men not take a hint   1/12/2009

I'm a straight man. Says right in my profile who I'm lookin to meet. So why is it that gay or bi men still feel the need to contact me and not take no for an answer? I'm curious if women have the same issue with the men on this site be they straight bi or otherwise?

2 Comments, 72 Views, 6 Votes ,3.08 Score
omg... get the picture!   1/11/2009

so as i sit on my computer doing my own thing talking to the random guys that have come across my screen and i wonder if they even have looked at my profile. i have an issue with age cos of how young i am and how i want to find somone closer in age.. i dont understand why older men find it fun to keep trying. listen when a person says no they mean it. just listen and respect!

3 Comments, 109 Views, 3 Votes ,2.94 Score
01717222560 35 M
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saying no thanks   1/10/2009

saying no thanks

0 Comments, 23 Views, 1 Votes
rm_jessy93550 44 F
1  Article
just no   1/7/2009

you know on this website i have so many guys trying to talk to me and it get kinda of annoying when they get persistant and to the point of scary when they end up sending you messages and photos please guys if the girl doesnt reply its for a reason take the hint!

2 Comments, 82 Views, 6 Votes ,3.93 Score
Hobo5352758 76 M
1  Article
Be Polite and Respond   1/2/2009

One of the things that I've noticed here, and to be honest on every other site is that people don't respond, even to say, "No Thanks." Whatever happened to common courtesy? It doesn't cost anything to simply say, "Not Intrested, " and it will probably keep you from getting repeat messages.

3 Comments, 91 Views, 8 Votes ,4.64 Score
plussize2003 56 M
1  Article
Why Waste Time?   12/29/2008

I've been a member of HornyWife for 6 yrs now, my question is: Why do the Gold members have to spend money for standards to view their profiles? Then these "cheap-os" have the nerve to "request" VIP be in Gold's profile, to guarantee an reply. I must have spent $400 on helping standards and they reply at least twice, then vanish. Or most woman members claim they're interested(even in your local ...

3 Comments, 140 Views, 5 Votes ,2.82 Score
Co-ed   12/23/2008

I have this colleague at work who's been flirting with me. She doesn't know that I have a girlfriend. She keeps bending forward showing off her cleavage to me. Once at the pantry area, she groped me and told me that she found me attractive. How do I say no without hurting her feelings or embarassing her?

4 Comments, 112 Views, 4 Votes ,4.02 Score
lasiren 48 F
2  Articles
Identify an potentially bad idea   12/9/2008

I just want to alert the women here.

I met someone on this site, who seemed like a sweet, sane person. He has a very popular profile, and has many regular visitors to his pages. Initially, I felt pretty honored that he found me attractive. We had a couple of dates, and a lot of email and texting. Due to problems with schedules and proximity, this relationship did not work out for me. I ...

18 Comments, 813 Views, 63 Votes ,7.81 Score
lasher2012 46 M
1  Article
big, big woman   12/1/2008

To them I always have to say No Thanks. Don't look hear. Look elsewhere, not interested. I can't do that, nope, and sorry.

1 Comments, 109 Views, 11 Votes
_JKH_ 69 M
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Sign of the times !   11/21/2008

You try to enter your password on the microwave.

You haven't played solitaire with a real deck of cards in a year.

You have a list of fifteen to reach your family of three.

Your just bought a CD of all the records your college roommate used to play that you most despised.

Every commercial on television has a web-site addy at the bottom of the screen. ...

15 Comments, 152 Views, 58 Votes
_JKH_ 69 M
858  Articles
Divorce ! ! !   11/11/2008

The word "divorce, " from the Latin word meaning to rip out a man's genitals up through his ass, through his Levi's and plumb through his wallet and on to freedom. ...

15 Comments, 193 Views, 58 Votes ,0.79 Score
Sulk_000001 45 M
2  Articles
What to do...   10/28/2008

Question for both sexes...

What to do when the opposite sex wants to meet for a sexual encounter but you are not into the physical for whatever reason.

Things to consider?

Am I a jerk for not wanting too...

Your thoughts?

3 Comments, 90 Views, 8 Votes ,4.17 Score
Just saying No thanks   10/8/2008

I have been invited to have an unmeaningful relationship with a beautiful lady once a week. I actually was wanting a little more than unmeaningful so I had to tell her no thanks. She has hassled me about it and I finally had to ignore her.

3 Comments, 130 Views, 4 Votes ,2.86 Score
swapping partner for a !   10/6/2008

We recently had chat with 1 gut who was up to arrange a swap. However, as the conversation panned out, it turned out the person he was gonna bring was in fact gonna be a . How could he expect us to agree to this exchange? His emotional connection with this female was totally non-existant, wheras me ands my partner have been together over 10 years. Sometimes, the politeness of the answer should be ...

4 Comments, 161 Views, 12 Votes ,6.16 Score
Choclitinnocence 48 F
3  Articles
If Someone says "Thank you but I am not interested"..   9/26/2008

Or one of those others pleasant let you down easy one liners, why do you feel the need to counter the statement with "Why?" or some other pestering comment or rude comment?

Would these replies honestly make the person reconsider the rejecting reply that they initially sent?

If you got one of those responses, would you take the reply as a hit and then move on or if you like what ...

18 Comments, 256 Views, 17 Votes ,3.83 Score
YOU SUSPECT A STD   8/31/2008

You meet someone online. You meet in person and like one another. You decide to have sex. You're both naked. Then you see it. A bump, blister, redness, or something else that you think could be a std. But you may be wrong. It might be nothing. The other person might not be aware of it. How do you stop without hurting the other persons feelings?What is the polite way to handle this situation?

2 Comments, 155 Views, 8 Votes ,3.71 Score
how do i tell someone no thanks   8/18/2008

well it starts with a guy that has been trying to get with me forever and im just not intersted in him im try to hint it but how do i tell him no thanks without being mean

5 Comments, 88 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
hot4uinga 41 F
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repeats   8/6/2008

how can you nicely say I DONT WANT YOU, after you ignore and tewll them they are not your type

7 Comments, 130 Views, 9 Votes ,5.56 Score
Azaruna 46 C
2  Articles
Not an easy thing   7/29/2008

Guess it depends on how warm/cold a person you are to how difficult you find this.

We are very tactful and warm people so find it quite difficult. We can make our minds up pretty quick to whether or not we are interested. Will tell you now we definately aint interested in people without pix on their profile as it shows ...

1 Comments, 44 Views, 5 Votes ,4.12 Score
mixedaddy 46 M
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kissing on first date   7/25/2008

MOst women will give a kiss the first date.Some even hand the kat over.My thing is with all the variables, do ladies chosse right off the bat who can hit it?Or the guy has to change her mind overtime?

3 Comments, 73 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
a_latham 41 M
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Is it wrong to just say no?   7/7/2008

Despite what Nancy Reagan may have started with that expression, I don't mean drugs. I'm talking about oral sex. To be frank, I've never really been one for the cunnilingus or the blow jobs, to be honest. I've always found it be at best, impersonal and at worst, dangerous. Stay with me on this one.

I agree that oral is a valid point of foreplay (something I have often enjoyed over ...

5 Comments, 76 Views, 10 Votes ,2.99 Score
lickUallovertwo 61 M
4  Articles
just say it   7/5/2008

after chatting with someone and you find that your really not interested. Just say "no thanks" don't just ignore the person, that is really cruel.

7 Comments, 48 Views, 2 Votes ,3.81 Score
lickUallovertwo 61 M
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why is it so hard   7/5/2008

I have found that many people will just ignore you instead of just saying I am not interested. Why? I wouldn't do that to anyone, so, lets just have some common manners.

1 Comments, 16 Views, 2 Votes ,1.73 Score
Buengusto61 62 M
1  Article
It sucks when it happens to you   7/5/2008

Married? No thanks. No offense, but if you're not being satisfied by your man, then leave him, but don't go looking for some side fun. My first wife cheated on me, and knowing what it feels like, no matter how hot she is, if she's married, I'm the one that has to sleep with my conscience at night. I know there are people who disagree with me, though.

Your thoughts?

1 Comments, 61 Views, 8 Votes ,4.64 Score
chrisgoesdown 40 M
1  Article
is it too much to expect an actual rejection when getting rejected?   6/25/2008

Is it just me or do people who reject you via ignoring you just piss you off.. at least tell me to go fuck off.. I recently met up with a woman I met on here.. drove about an hour to meet up with her.. brought a friend for her roomate.. shared photos and talked on the phone for days.. could tell within the first five minutes she didnt want me there.. she eventually went to bed about an hour into ...

2 Comments, 85 Views, 3 Votes ,5.39 Score
Grooverat 47 M
3  Articles
Lets be adults   5/28/2008

Most people ( men especially ) are too cowardly on this front and will bumble around making until the other person gets upset and annoyed.Be honest and upfront, we are all adults on here and should be able to take the rejection by now ;O

0 Comments, 52 Views, 5 Votes ,2.82 Score
bigguns727 57 C
1  Article
"No thanks"   5/26/2008

5/25/09 Most people appreciate when you're being upfront with them. If it's "Sorry, I'm not interested." "No thanks." It's all the same, people on this site, and in general have been around enough, that they should be able totake no as no, and keep on going.

4 Comments, 72 Views, 1 Votes ,5.00 Score
1HotSexyGuy2003 46 M
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"I didn't want to hurt him"   5/22/2008

I don't understand why women blow off men because they "don't want to hurt them". I've seen this happen many times with friends (male and female), and to myself as well. A guy will ask a girl out, she's not interested but she doesn't want to reject him so she says yes, even gives out her phone #, with no intention of ever going out on a date with the guy. If you're not interested, just say so! ...

2 Comments, 58 Views, 11 Votes ,4.66 Score
rm_euroticEng 38 G
10  Articles
Working in a bar   5/1/2008

Working in a bar is definately a great thing, i believe everybody would agree. Free drinks, great girls around you and of course the sex. Yet, it is not always a sexy girl that is trying to get you. Then what do one do? Just gets drunk enough? Or runs away? Saying no can be a is not really pleasant, you know. We all have been there- been said "No thanks" in one way or another. More ...

3 Comments, 96 Views, 12 Votes ,2.80 Score
rm_usurious69 37 C
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Do men find it hard to say "no"?   5/1/2008

When my man is propositioned he says that he feels like he's being really rude by saying "No" to girls. He even thinks that he's being rude by saying "No thanks" to strippers when we're in a lap dancing club; you get some right wrongens stripping these days and it seems they know that men find it hard to say 'no' too; why else would they push themselves so hard onto punters?

I always see ...

6 Comments, 90 Views, 9 Votes ,3.64 Score
rm_antioxidantz 48 M
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No means no   4/21/2008

Well you just have to speak up ur mind. No means no. That simple. The more you are indecisive about it the more you will regret it.

8 Comments, 338 Views, 12 Votes ,3.68 Score
ToToDeep 68 M
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Lets just face the fact   4/13/2008

Being all "adults" here at this site, it seems to me that we could use a Little common courtesy. Its ok to let someone know if your not interested, "thanks, but no thanks". I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Its not hard to understand, its our que to move on. And move on we should. Rejection is a part of being on this site. Lets just face that fact and go on and still have fun.

7 Comments, 120 Views, 15 Votes ,3.74 Score
Telling Someone You Meet Sorry You Misrepresented   4/10/2008

I met someone through HornyWife about 4 months ago and she was nothing what she described. I had already booked the hotel room for us to spend the night but when she arrived I just wanted to run. I told her I needed to run out and get some drinks but I never came back. She still called and wanted to meet again. How do you tell someone sorry you are nothing close to what I was looking for and still ...

8 Comments, 390 Views, 19 Votes ,4.71 Score
newstart20002007 48 M
1  Article
How do you do it   4/4/2008

Met a lady online-seemed great-got to know her very well via email, shared pics (she loooks good)started talking on phone, etc but her voice absolutely kills me-its do artfully back away and not hurt her feelings to much?

4 Comments, 68 Views, 5 Votes ,3.80 Score
777rowan777 61 F
4  Articles
Why are some people so mean?   3/31/2008

I don't understand why some find it necessary to write so cruelly when one says a polite "No thank you."

After responding rather than ignoring their communications, and doing so in a polite and tactful way, I have encountered such meaness in spirit that it makes me shake my head in disbelief.


14 Comments, 209 Views, 14 Votes ,5.38 Score
rbhwt 59 M
3  Articles
fisting   3/27/2008

do many women like fisting

3 Comments, 141 Views, 7 Votes ,1.26 Score
ohyesedd 46 M
4  Articles
putting yourself in their shoe   3/16/2008

I always have a hard time with saying no too, then i start thinking what if things were the other way around. If i was the one who was extremely attracted to the girl and you absolutely want to know what the hell does she think of you. you soon realize, that yes you might hurt her now but in the long run it would be better than not hearing the truth.

0 Comments, 14 Views, 4 Votes ,5.19 Score
rm_CindyBunnyx 26 F
2  Articles
Unsure   2/25/2008

I have a male friend and hes is constantly flirting or making comments that are suggestful. I usually laugh it off or joke back with him but after knowing him for two months im starting to think he might be serious. Any advice? Or maybe I should ask him outright if he actually has feelings for me?

4 Comments, 140 Views, 5 Votes ,2.16 Score
rm_newmie223 43 M
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I'm not fond of smokers   2/23/2008

Peer pressure can often be quite subtle -- something as simple as a passing suggestion or a visual cue is sometimes all need to feel pressure to experiment with negative behaviors. Meeting, and then resisting the challenges posed by peer pressure takes courage and skill. By spending time with your and teaching them the different types of refusal lines they can use, they can decide which one ...

0 Comments, 17 Views, 3 Votes ,2.45 Score
rm_BX1000 50 M
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Letting her down easy.   2/18/2008

I'm curious to know when your not interested in a someone, what's the best way to say it, so you don't hurt her feelings?

4 Comments, 42 Views, 2 Votes ,3.12 Score
RockhardCock344 25 M
3  Articles
no thanks?   2/15/2008

Fuck that....I say hell yeeeaaazzzzzz

1 Comments, 64 Views, 2 Votes ,0.34 Score
stickyfacials2 49 M
3  Articles
Know before you go   2/11/2008

Before you go and meet someone, you should really establish that chemistry before you go play with them. People will say anything to get laid. What would you like to hear?

3 Comments, 93 Views, 8 Votes ,5.10 Score
rm_brookbeach 34 M
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NO   2/3/2008

How do you tell someone that your not interested with out hurting their feelings?

4 Comments, 88 Views, 8 Votes ,3.94 Score
a perfect no thanx   1/31/2008

I am not sure what the perfect rejection is, however i do believe one that comes with a short explanation of why the person who believed you had enough in common to be good 'adult-friends' is not your type will recieve less Why nots or agressive responses then ignoring or a auto reply does. just my thoughts

0 Comments, 58 Views, 7 Votes ,5.08 Score
lovetoplay37129 47 M
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no thanks   12/27/2007

its hard to do , but better for everyone to be polite and say no thanks rather than nothing at all or being rude

7 Comments, 166 Views, 15 Votes ,5.27 Score
NeedsITsoGood25 49 F
1  Article
Why stand women up?   12/13/2007

Ok I don't get it.All the guys on here bitch and moan about the lack of women willing to meet but how many of you ladies have been left hanging at an agreed meeting place/time?I've run into 2 so far and i know there are others out there that have done it to some of you.So I have started a new group to try and help weed out the repeat offenders and let others know not to waste their time.My time ...

16 Comments, 265 Views, 25 Votes ,6.01 Score
jessiejane678 39 F
1  Article
are all the men on this site like this.   12/9/2007

i have noticed that alot of the men and some women on this site will send you nasty emails if you tell them no thanks. what happened the adult in HornyWife.

7 Comments, 220 Views, 22 Votes ,6.73 Score
tough to say no   11/26/2007

I don't think it's in our nature to say no...

2 Comments, 32 Views, 1 Votes
lastwoman69 61 F
3  Articles

POOR DEVILS !!!! This is a follow up to my article " I would like..."

This time, and I am referring to the male sex. I would like to bring up the many times in which I had the opportunity to witness how far hypocresy was carried by many. The same one that today builds you UP tomorrow will insult you and offend you.....and why?


11 Comments, 476 Views, 17 Votes ,6.10 Score
david38372 54 M
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no   10/25/2007

say no thanks

1 Comments, 30 Views, 2 Votes ,1.04 Score
The best way to say NO   10/25/2007

I think that there are many ways to say no to someone. The best of course is being honest and telling them. Standing someone up is not the way, too many do that, they say one thing and then when you arrange to meet, they become a no show. To me that is the cowards way out.

0 Comments, 38 Views, 1 Votes ,3.70 Score
btown1414 43 M
1  Article
Responding   10/12/2007

I have sent out a lot of emails to women asking them if they would like to chat. Why are women so rude by not returning the email? I understand maybe I'm not there type, blah, blah, blah. but an email would be nice acknowledgement that they aren't fake!

6 Comments, 178 Views, 7 Votes ,3.80 Score
serendips 53 F
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Not responding is worse.   10/2/2007

I don't like to hurt someone else's feelings, but not responding is a worse option only followed by being mean or rude in response.

When I came here I brought the understanding that I'm not going to appeal to everyone I'm attracted to - that's just the way life is. I don't send many e-mails but when I do, I like to hear back either way and I think most of us do as well. A simple quick ...

10 Comments, 216 Views, 14 Votes ,4.26 Score
kinkycplfl8283 32 C
1  Article
Hypocrits or sore losers?   9/15/2007

I consider myself to be semi attractive and pretty damn nice. So much to my dismay when my hubby and I have said "no thanks" to some people (and not just on this site) people have gotten nasty and said some hateful things. One single male actually went so far as to call me a , another one said my husband must be controlling me, and another couple, after us telling them kindly they just weren't ...

5 Comments, 175 Views, 22 Votes ,6.97 Score
rm_eeytig 53 F
1  Article
Feeling bad...   9/12/2007

I've read most of the articles and comments on this topic, but it hasn't helped me not feel guilty telling someone no. Most of the time it is a case of "I'm sorry, I can't drop everything to meet you, but I do have a life if you had only read my profile" kind of feeling. I was under the mistaken impression that in order to be a member you had to at least be able to read, because most of the ...

2 Comments, 57 Views, 6 Votes ,1.66 Score
wetnights4you 50 F
1  Article
I'm done   9/3/2007

So you log onto HornyWife, meet a guy, things go well and you hook up for sex. You both like the sex and continue meeting more regular then all of a sudden he just doesn't come around anymore or answer your call. In a "No strings attached" relationship is it too much to expect a reason why the relationship is over or is it perfectly acceptable due to the nature of the relation to just dissolve ...

10 Comments, 225 Views, 24 Votes ,5.97 Score
Ms_Judged 59 F
1  Article
Are we not adults?   8/26/2007

Sometimes if I see a pic I like or a profile that makes me smile or makes me hot (usually from out of state), I'll send an email to show appreciation. Most times I'll get a note back thanking me which is nice. Now there are the times I will send an email (from my area) asking if they would be interested in chatting and I get nothing back. There has even been times when I am contacted, a few ...

17 Comments, 365 Views, 14 Votes ,6.66 Score