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Not so good as gold  

whoisagentj 54M
661 posts
3/24/2019 1:36 pm

Last Read:
3/27/2019 10:34 am

Not so good as gold

Yesterday I got contacted by someone who wanted contact me. I debated on it and decided take a chance, so...I got Gold status for the next couple of months see if I could talk her and see if maybe something would change here.

I broke down, purchased a 3 month subscription here, and messaged her back. After a while, she messaged me back and we talked for a bit. I then took the risk, gave her my number, and we talked last night over the phone. Afterwards, we discussed a possible meet up today and I went to bed last night.

Today I called her because she hadn't called me back.

"Hello?" I said?

"Who is this?" she replied. She had no idea who I was...I tried to explain myself, but she told me she had to call me back. So she hung up.

Two minutes later, she called me back again. "Do I know you?" she said.

"Ummm, we talked last night. I'm J, from HornyWife?"

"Oh yeah! Why do you always sound so happy over the phone?" she said in a bit of a demeaning tone. Which got me to thinking, if she didn't even remember me, or care to remember that she agreed to meet up the next day, I don't think this was going to work out. So I made the decision to cancel the meet and go on our separate ways.

"Well, about that...I just wanted to call you in person, as I think a text would not have been appropriate. I just wanted to say I just don't think that..." she wouldn't even let me finish, and said she didn't think we were going to be a good match. I agreed, and before I could finish what I was going to say again, she cut me off and said "Yeah well goodbye!" and hung up the phone.

Not to be rude, and if she's reading this, well, but I think she did me a favor. Regardless, I don't wish her any ill will. I think she said this because she was afraid for one thing. And for another thing, I think she really wasn't serious about even meeting in the first place.

Now, normally I would be upset over it. But the more I think about it, she did me a favor. I reached out to her. Talked to her. And while I think she tried to reject me, I didn't take it personal. I don't think it was a good match to begin with upon retrospection and reflection. But...I do think it was a good thing, because it helped me get out of my funk a bit. It allowed me to think, maybe I should get back into trying to find someone out there for me. So for now, I'm going to use this newly found gold status to reach out to others here and see if I truly can find someone to reach out to and see if I can find someone who is compatible for me.

Always try to find the sunny side of the street I guess.

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On a side note, my mom is doing ok for now. I know some of you had inquired about her, so I thought I'd give a status update on her. She's going in for her 2nd dose of chemo tomorrow. She's now going to be doing chemo every two weeks and then Nulasta to help her deal with the effects of the chemo. So far, she's been doing well, and the only side effect is that she's constantly cold at times. So while she's taking naps on the couch, we wrap her up in blankets and try to keep her warm.

Plus today, I spent some time with her watching some of her favorite black and white movies today. It was nice to spend some time with her today.

Well, now that I'm a Gold member again...I guess the search is on!


Who can you call on to save the day?

Why none other than...


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s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
3/25/2019 6:50 am

It's been at a stalemate status for quite some time.
It would be nice if these honest people said they
have no intentions of meeting others but not losing
free gold is more important!

Using more than all the road!


whoisagentj replies on 3/25/2019 7:40 am:
Well, I just looked at it as a opportunity, but unfortunately the opportunity was wasted by her wasting my time. The best I can do is move on and try to make lemonade out of lemons here.

dogslife2live01 71M

3/24/2019 6:39 pm

i don't believe i read the whole thing

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


whoisagentj replies on 3/25/2019 7:38 am:
Well thanks for being honest and saying my life sucks. LOL!

bitchkitty2017 71F

3/24/2019 2:57 pm

wow kind of sounds like maybe she was with someone and was playing stupid because she didn't want the other person to know she was gonna do whatever...That is a low down person ..but I had a few of those as well ..maybe it wasn't for you but I tend not to be trusting especially on here..sorry that happened ..but hey look at the bright side ..I been stood up 22 times since coming on here last year lol see it always could be worse..Glad yr Mom is doing ok..hang in there !! you take a nice pic...awesome smile hon...


whoisagentj replies on 3/24/2019 3:47 pm:
Well she did tell me that her gay cousin created the profile for her so she could just check out the site and that she wasn't as serious as she wanted to be because she never expected to find anyone here. I think once she did find someone here, she panicked and didn't know how to react. That, and I just got vibes from her that we wouldn't mesh. I call that my "spidey-sense".

Whenever your spidey sense tells you something...you listen to it. it's your gut telling you that things are not going to work. THAT or you start probing with some more questions to see if that person is going to work or not and see if more red flags come up. Which they did start to come up for me, and I had to probe a bit deeper with her.

Now do I think she is a bad person? No. I just think she wasn't seriously looking, and she wasn't honest with herself. That and after I called her, her attitude told me she didn't give me any thought from the previous night when we talked. So, in short, she was definitely not the one to invest in.

I'm sorry things haven't gone well with you either. Hang in there, BK. I hope you find the person you are looking for as well!

here2fixxurcable 41M
52 posts
3/24/2019 2:44 pm

Keep at it man! Everyone gets these unappealing exchanges from time to time. Sounds like you might be a candidate for some more regular vanilla-ish dating sites as well! Good luck


whoisagentj replies on 3/24/2019 3:39 pm:
Well, it's not for lack of trying at those sites as well, however, my luck hasn't been good.
I've been here now for quite a while. Well over 10 years, I think. And my luck at dating has...well, sucked balls for lack of a better explanation. It's not been for lack of trying, but unfortunately, I haven't been able to connect with the right person. All I can do is just keep trying to maintain a positive mental attitude toward finding someone. Oh sure, I have my dark and sad, lonely moments. I think we all do. But I have to believe there has to be someone out there that will want me for who I am.

Thanks for stopping by and posting!

whoisagentj 54M
6060 posts
3/24/2019 1:37 pm

Oh I forgot, this is me on the couch with my Bears wrap!

Who can you call on to save the day?

Why none other than...


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